What Is A Confidence Coach?

What Is A Confidence Coach?

Hi there,


I trust you are well and that you have been enjoying my blog posts. I must confess at the end of 2017 I made the commitment that I would right more often in 2018 and I am proud that I have been fulfilling that commitment so far.


Today I wanted to take the time to answer a question I get asked all the time:

What is a confidence coach?

A confidence coach is a life coach who has chosen to work with clients who have low self-confidence/self-esteem and together they work on empowering techniques to guide the client towards their confidence selves and a confident and compelling future.

There are two types of confidence coaches

  1. Coaches who found themselves almost by “accident” working with clients who have low self-confidence and over time the continue to work with these clients as they have enough experience and knowledge and they have a tried and tested set of techniques that help their clients, and
  2. Coaches who had low to almost no self-confidence; they know what it is like to have low self-esteem, so they are able to empathise with their clients because they were there themselves, and they can bring tools and skills they used from their personal experience, as well as the ones from their professional repertoire.

In my case I am the second type of coach, most of my childhood and teenage years I always felt there was something “off” with me, little did I know it was the fact I had no self-confidence/self-esteem, and this led me a suicide attempt at the age of 16 after I was outted to my mother by a priest.

The day after my suicide attempt after feeling more a failure I made the decision to speak up and talk to someone about my attempt the night before, it was at this moment I reconnected with humanity and I saw hope for the first time in my life.

So, at the age of 16 I realised I had been given a second chance and I was not going to let it go, hence I have been helping people most of my life, so they too enjoy a life with confidence and all the great things that come with it.


Like in life coaching a confidence coach will work with you towards your goals, in this case to have more confidence and together you will create a plan of action that is unique to you and you will tweak it as and when you need to.

The feedback and progress you make will determine the duration of the sessions, in average most people will take 5 to 10 sessions, sometimes more, it all depends on how you feel in yourself, the coach’s personal preferences and you budget sometimes.

Remember anything worth having requires you to put some effort and hard work to make it happen.

In summary

A confidence coach specialises in working with client who have low self-confidence.

There are two types of confidence coaches, 1) “accidental” ones who found themselves in the niche, and 2) coaches who had no confidence and overcame it, so they know too well what it is like to have low self-confidence.

It takes in average 5-10 sessions to get a level of competence where you feel condiment enough and comfortable saying so.

Thanks again for reading, if you’d like to work with a confidence coach, why not book for a free-20 minutes consultation with me?

Til next time, with all my love,



3 Lessons Learned In 2018 So Far

3 Lessons Learned In 2018 So Far


Years come and go, I still remember years in the 80’s, 90’s and 00’s when I didn’t have the awareness I now possess, and I simply got through the years, and decades without learning a single thing and stagnating.

Thankfully things changed when I started in personal development AND educating myself about life in general.

Now, I get from the day rather than through the day AND whatever good or bad comes my way I learn from it and I become a better and stronger person, increasing my resilience and self-belief.

What have I learned from 2018 in less than 3 weeks?

For some of readers this may sound obvious, for others this may be a new insight, and a breakthrough, remember one solution doesn’t always work for everyone else.

3 lessons learned in 2018 so far

  1. Time isn’t what it seems, time become more flexible when we learn to apply it and work with it. Leverage is the key to getting things done, it isn’t the person with the most hours or more minutes that gets the job done, it is the person with the most leverage that succeeds AND gets their tasks finished. I learned this through sheer planning and scheduling and learning where to invest my time and when to say no, the result? It is having more time to do what I want to do and spending the time with my loved ones.
  2. Discipline is the blood and sweat of success, I have heard this, so many times and I thought I was disciplined but I was not maxing out on my potential, there was more room for improvement, there was another level I wasn’t getting to. So far, I have put strategies in place to write daily, to exercise daily, to something I love daily, to eat my meals at the right time, to eat healthily AND to spend my time where it matters the most and where I am going to see best results. I guess it could be said this was my new year’s resolution and I have put into practice what I know, AND it is paying off. I am proud to say that I have achieved more in 3 weeks than I did previously in 3 months!!!
  3. A compassionate approach to life, as a vegan I often read and listened about compassion to the animals, the environment and other humans. So, this word has been stuck in my head and I have been toying with the idea of being more compassionate and loving and caring and present to other humans and myself. One other thing I love about the word compassion is that if we break apart into its two components we have com = with, and passion, with passion; I have started to live my life more passionately and lovingly, caring for things and people that need caring, I have learned to not neglect myself, I am taking better care of myself and it is paying off as I am more effective with everything I do.

In the last 3 weeks I have been making sure that I get from the day as much as I possibly can, not only because I am investing in my life but also because I am curious to know what areas need to be improved, where am I really good at? What areas are my weakest? Etc.

As I have mentioned before there are two types of people:

  • The one who get through the day, getting nothing from it, they are just relieved the day is over, and
  • The ones who get from the day, getting wisdom and lessons from it and enriching the quality of their lives by paying attention to the things that unfold in front of them.

In Summary

You can either get from the day or through the day, if you choose to get from the day, like me, why not keep a journal and write your lessons down and share them with the world?

Thank you for reading.

With all my love,





How To Be More Confident?

How To Be More Confident?


Who doesn’t want more confidence these days? We hear in the media children, teenagers and adults all being bullied, we hear of people taking advantage of their positions and roles; we hear how discrimination and hatred are seen almost everywhere.

Having more confidence would most definitely give you the strength, capacity and understanding to deal with these situations even better.

However, most of us grow thinking and believing that living the way we have always known is our reality, so we become resigned and learn to do nothing about it.

This conditioning which can be intentional or unintentional becomes our truth and we never learn to be more than we have always been; we go to school, university and work feeling less than others, not good enough for our job and most definitely not deserving of love.

Why become more confident?

In my personal experience when I learned to exercise my confidence my whole life changed, I was able to express my ideas, concerns and disagreements freely without fearing I’d be judged or not even listened to.

People started to pay more attention to me, they wanted my company AND they’d almost always ask me for my opinion. My life totally transformed for the better, I went from feeling invisible to feeling wanted and needed by others.

Just 9 short months after my suicide attempt I found love, after I felt I was not attractive enough and underserving of love too!

Things continued to improve in my 20’s and they still get better and better, simply because I grow in confidence with each day.

Remember confidence is a skill, so the more you practice and exercise it the better you get at it, learning and growth never EVER ends!

How to be more confident?

You might be wondering how can I have a slice of that cake? Or perhaps you are already working on it and you want to enjoy more of this incredible experience.

The first step to take to be more confident is to acknowledge and recognise there is a lack of self-confidence/self-esteem, that something isn’t working.

This first step is awareness, which is the first step for any change in our lives.

Once you declare you aren’t as confident as you’d like to be, assess where you are in the scale of 0-10, 0 being no confidence whatsoever to 10 being I am the bee’s knees in confidence.

Be honest when you score yourself, remember the more you know about your current situation the more you can do to create a compelling and attractive future for your self as a confident person.

Lastly, learn what is missing in your life so that you can become more confident, this could be learning how to speak to others, or how to break the ice, or how to talk to strangers.

We are all unique and we all have different confidence levels.

In my case I had to learn to do 3 things to start believing I could be confident, these were:

  • There was nothing wrong with being gay.
  • I wasn’t unattractive and unlovable, and
  • I could love myself.

Once I worked on these beliefs I had, I started to say to myself: there is nothing wrong with being gay, I am attractive and lovable, AND I love myself no matter what.

I overcame those unnecessary beliefs by using affirmations, so overtime I started to believe these things and to project them, too.

What are your beliefs or ideas of yourself that by changing them you can start to move towards your confident self?

Becoming confident isn’t rocket science, it requires awareness, the desire to improve and practice so over time you become the confident self you have always known yourself to be.

Are there any other ways to become more confident?

I learned to be more confident after my suicide attempt, I felt I was given a second chance AND I surrounded myself with people who encouraged me to be more and better, and I also sought professional help.

Working alone can be daunting and scary, we are blessed there are many experts out there who can help us achieve our goals.

If you feel you need the support of a professional, then engage with a confidence coach who can guide you through their techniques to help you become more confident.

Transformation mustn’t be scary or frightening, let a professional work with you and guide you to your confident self.


Magic happens outside the comfort zone, confidence happens outside the comfort zone and must of our dreams await us outside of our comfort zone, too!

In summary

To be more confident we must have an awareness that we don’t have enough confidence, we ought to score how confident we are in the scale of 0-10, then we must identify what we need more of to be more confident and finally practice it until we become our confident selves.

Alternatively, working with a confidence coach could be the best way forward for most of us, as they share the journey with us and guide us in what can be a daunting and scary experience.

Thank you so much for reading today’s post and if you’d like to work with a confidence coach, why not book for a free-20 minutes consultation with me?

Til next time, with all my love,




5 Tips To Stay On Track With Your Goals

5 Tips To Stay On Track With Your Goals


We are more than half way through the month, we have seen resolutions been born and gone, frustration here and there, reality kicks in and we feel rather sh*t about the year and ourselves.

What can we do to stay on track?

For years I struggled with that too and it was challenging to remain strong and finish strong, staying focused and achieving my goals.

You are in luck today as I am sharing with you what I learned through the years and what worked best to stay on track.

5 tips to stay on track with your goals:

  1. Have a deadline, as crazy as it may sound some of us never EVER set a deadline, having a deadline is key to any goal, it is law that when you give yourself a time frame to finish something that’s how long it will take you, for example if you are building a house and you don’t set a deadline it can take you forever to finish and not only that but it will cost you a lot of money and emotional stress too. What is the goal you are working on? How long are you giving yourself to do it? Is it realistic? Who do you know who has done similar task? Have these questions in mind when setting a deadline, being realistic and driven can make a huge difference in any project.
  2. Have accountability, when I wrote my first book Growing Confident, I was telling everyone I was writing a personal development book and I was making them part of the project, in the end it took me 21 days to write the book, 3 months to publish it AND it gave me so much confidence in myself and my abilities. Currently I am accountable for two things writing a fiction book and writing 15 thousand words by the 1st of February. Will I get it done on time? 100% because I don’t want to let people down, people are taking some of their time to keep an eye on me and by not doing it I am letting them down and myself!!! Who do you know in your circle of friends or professionals who can hold you accountable to your actions AND to whom you can pay the favour forward by doing the same? Win-win scenarios win all the time.
  3. Be flexible, when you have a deadline and the time arrives and you haven’t completed your goal, that is ok! Life doesn’t always go as planned, that’s why being flexible is key and paramount. There is presupposition in NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, which says: the person with the most flexibility controls the system, better explained if you are flexible you will find ways to make things work for you. The number one reason why people fail at anything is the lack of flexibility. Winners and achievers are flexible, what this really means is they are learning from their mistakes and using these feedbacks to their advantage. Where are you at in relation to your goal? How can you be more flexible? What would having more flexibility give you? Are you being flexible in your life?
  4. Have a contingency plan, a plan is a strategy and if one doesn’t work, would you give up just like that? Having a plan B or a contingency plan gives you an advantage over yourself and other people (depending on the task); often most people put ALL of their eggs in one basket and when it is gone, that’s it! This goes in alignment with being flexible and having a deadline, if your goal is taking longer than planned, would you park it and give up? Let’s say you are losing weight and you gave yourself 2 months to lose 1 st and you only lose 9 lbs, would you quit when you only have another 5 lbs to go? The deadline didn’t work, perhaps you didn’t explore other avenues to lose the 5 lbs in the time frame agreed, this type of scenario is when a contingency plan comes in handy, perhaps you could exercise more, take on some cardio classes, eat less carbs, and so… When you start a new goal, explore different avenues and different outcomes.
  5. Be kind to yourself, for years any time anything failed I would be kicking myself, I’d talk to myself in ways I wouldn’t allow anyone to talk to me, yet I was doing it myself. Then I started to be kind to myself and, forgive myself for not getting the results I wanted and forgetting about these mistakes. I discovered that hating or even disliking myself was being counterproductive AND I was in a worse off place at the end of it. If things aren’t going the way you planned them that is OK, what are you learning from it, be kind to yourself and get on with whatever you must do to accomplish your goal.

These are the 5 tips I have found really useful throughout the years and I have seen many positive results by remembering these.

Why not share these tips with your family and friends too?

Thank you for reading, till next time,



Why Should I Work With A Confidence Coach?

Why Should I Work With A Confidence Coach?


When I was a teenager talking to people about my personal life was a huge thing for me, I learned all the tricks under the sun to avoid talking about my life AND the truth is I was the one who was missing out, I was the one who was robbing himself from some useful advice and/or help.

As a teenager I had zero confidence, to the outside world I was “OK” when in reality I was NOT OK, I blagged my way through lies and pretences; no one knew where I lived (I was ashamed of our poverty), no one knew much about my life (I felt there was nothing to share about it), I was very depressed and weeks/days away from attempting suicide.

I was outted to my mother for being gay, I lost any hope I had to have a normal life in a matter of days, some of my teenage years sucked! and big time!!!

It took me years to learn to fully love and accept myself as I was with all my positive qualities and flaws. From the age of 16 to 18 I attended a weekly therapy group for gay men, here we’d talk about our lives and what was going on and we’d coach each other.

This helped me in two ways:

1) I learned how some people struggled in other areas of their life and that was equally as painful as what I was going through, I understood that someone’s pain is as valuable as mine, and

2) I understood the importance of opening and talking to someone or people who can help us and coach us in the right direction.

I started with this brief summary of where I was almost 20 years ago, I had no hope for my life, I had visualised a pretty dull and pointless life for myself; in fact, I had very little going for me.

However, life had other plans for me.

I became the last thing I ever thought I would become, a Therapist and Coach helping people to grow in confidence AND regain control of their lives, achieving their dreams and making a difference in the world.

I never saw it coming if I am honest! I was interested in the mind and helping others, but I never put them together, never mind professionally.


Why work with a confidence coach?

If you feel:

  • You have little or no self-confidence,
  • You are lacking in the certainty department,
  • You feel you don’t matter or value,
  • You aren’t worth listening to,
  • You are depressed, or
  • What is the point in being alive.

Then, a confidence coach is the right fit for you, why?

Because they have the tools necessary to help you overcome your lack of confidence.

Confidence coaches, like myself, have studied confidence and what is like to have little to no self-confidence.

In my case, I became interested and involved with clients lacking in the self-confidence department for two reasons:

  • My personal experience from the past, I was lacking so much confidence that it led me to a depression I wasn’t even aware off and ultimately almost cost me my life, the day I decided to end my life. When you don’t have confidence or self-esteem there is a price to pay, this is relationships, level of success and sometimes even our lives, and
  • When I was studying management, I carried out a research at work and I learned that many if not most employees had low self-confidence and low self-esteem because they felt unworthy of and useless for their roles, which led to poor performance at work.

We also hear stories of people whose lives have been wasted because they never addressed their “problems” on time, leading them to a life of scarcity, misery and loneliness.

Working with a confidence coach helps you get the results you want, they work with your exact “problem” and the solutions and goals will be unique to you, so you prevent the worst-case scenario ever becoming a reality.


The truth is coaching isn’t a “miracle”, it is preventative AND it moves you towards what you want rather than away from it towards that what you don’t want.

One thing clients have to understand is that it takes time to see results, sadly some people think that one session will sort their lives out! Rome was not built in one day and frankly, if some has 4 decades of mess to clean, surely it will take more than 1 hour!

I will give you my example I was very fortunate that my journey started when I was 16. At this age I sought help for the very first time AND I was willing to make it work; now almost 20 years later there are “ghosts” or “issues” from the past that come and haunt me every now and then.

This work is continuous, it never ends because we never stop growing; also, from my personal experience just because you are confident in one are of your life, it does NOT mean you will be confident in every other area, it isn’t that simple.

Working with a confidence coach helps you recognise your blind spots and what steps to take and you will have someone by your side cheering you on all the way to your goal and facilitate feedback when things don’t go as planned.

In Summary

A confidence coach is someone who knows and understands what it is like to have no confidence and they have the tools to help you become more confident and assertive in your life.

This process takes time and your coach will have your back every step of the way because when you win your coach wins too.

Thank you so much for reading and if you want a confidence coach why not take a free-20 mins consultation and find out how I can help you starting today.

Have a wonderful day.

With all my love,



How To Be You!

How To Be You!

I have to admit this it my favourite title for a blog yet!

How to be you?

My answer would be very simple and to the point:

The best way to be YOU is not to be like OR act like anyone else!

It is at this point that things get a bit “tricky” and people get confused, often I hear things like:

• I don’t have a personality,
• I don’t know how to be “me”,
• I don’t know who I want to be,
• I don’t have a role model,
• I don’t look like such and such, etc.

The list of reasons or excuses to be some else outweigh the reasons to be oneself.

So, how can you be you?

(I got to admit this is a great question, too! – I think I will be using it a lot from now on!)

The answer from everyone would be unique and personal to each person, so here is MY answer, this when I learn how I could be me.

The first thing I did was to make a list of the things I wasn’t: I wasn’t an athlete nor into sports, I wasn’t a singer (seriously, my singing is deafening!), I wasn’t an answer (how can someone have 2 left feet, it is a mystery!), I wasn’t blond, I wasn’t tall, I wasn’t short, I wasn’t a genius, I wasn’t wealthy.

This gave an idea (by elimination) of what my personality/identity was like.

Then, I made another list of the things I didn’t want to be: I didn’t want to be lazy, I didn’t want to be obese, I didn’t want to be unhealthy, I didn’t want to be unfit, I didn’t want to be “just another person in the crowd”, I didn’t want to be a victim, I didn’t want to be a bad person.

Again, this list gave me an idea of what I might want to be as a person, which direction to take in order to be the person I didn’t know how to be.

I asked myself: what excites you; I loved cooking (still do and I became a chef), I loved learning (my self-education is the best gift I have given myself by far!), I loved teaching and simplifying things for others (I have become a trainer to share my passion with others), I loved fiction and poetry (I have published my poems and recited them in public, written non-fiction and just started writing my first fiction book!), I loved crystals and gems (I am mineral collector and crystal healer), I loved the mind (I am now a therapist and coach), I loved talking to people (I help people through my work as a coach), I loved helping people (I do that through ALL of my work!).

ALL of the things that excited me when I started my personal development journey are very much part of what I do in my work, they excited me and I found a way to align my joy and excitement with my personality and career.

Lastly, I asked myself: what is the one thing you would like to accomplish in life? It took me a while to answer this question as I had to sit with it, when it came, this is what I came up with: what I want to accomplish in life is that every single person I get in contact with is awakened to their potential, so they leave their reasons behind and they start creating the life of their dreams, achieving abundance, joy, laughter, love and total happiness. A bit unambitious, I know!

That is the moment I discovered I wanted to be of help to others, empower them and create victors who forget excuses and remember reasons to be amazing and reasons to do instead of not to do.

I learned that the person I had to be was someone big, bold, courageous, brave, a go getter, powerful, strong and committed. I was sold!

I wanted to be that person, I fell in love with the idea of being strong! I grew up “thinking” I was the runt of the litter! I had all the reasons to give up on my dreams and life, yet I didn’t because I found the idea of being all of these amazing things more powerful than being a runt of a litter or a victim!

A list of qualities, characteristics and attributes stood in front of me and I got busy becoming ALL of these things AND I found ways to become ALL of them.

I became a confidence and success coach and having confidence opens all these doors to so many but I had to start with myself, so I could tell the tale to others, like I am doing right now.

To be you, you have to be honest and transparent with yourself, the truth is not many people give two flying f*cks, I used to hold myself back because of what others might think.

When I put two and two together and I got much more than 4, I got common sense; people would only care about things for minutes, hours or days at the very maximum, after that they’d forget about it ALL, because they also have their own inner stuff, battles or sh*t that keep them preoccupied.

Discovering how to be you is a journey that you MUST be willing to embark on and learn what hasn’t been learn, grow muscles and attitudes you haven’t yet, study and learn skills that haven’t been learned, leave the unwanted/unnecessary behind, search for what’s needed instead of what you think might be wanted.

Becoming you is learning about yourself, what makes you tick and what triggers you (trust me on the last one!!!), it is about learning to communicate effectively (I learn something new on this subject daily!), it is about being honest with yourself and your intentions and quite frankly it isn’t about you either, it is about others!

How to be you can only be learned by you, others might be able to help you but ultimately it is up to YOU whether you become a “copycat” or an unique print of yourself!

In Summary

To be you, you mustn’t be someone else, you ought to discover who you are by embarking on a journey of self-discovery learning what hasn’t been learned AND putting what you learn into practice, aligning your passions, what you love and excite you with how you can help others.

Being authentic, genuine and original makes so much more sense when others benefit from it, and the more people you help the greater the rewards you reap.

Thank you so much for reading today’s post and please share with your friends and family.

With all my love,


My Week In 500 Words – v2

My Week In 500 Words – v2

It is a great feeling when you get from the week rather than through the week!

Things seem to make so much more sense.

There were three things that really stood out for me and these are:

1. People are ALWAYS a contribution to us, I believe communication is a gift that we give others and ourselves, and it is in these interactions that we learn so much about others, how we occur to them AND ways in which we can improve, feedback is such a powerful tool that well used has the potential to transform our lives.
2. I spent a couple of hours in the part taking pictures of pigeons and I remembered how great it is to be in nature surrounded by animals and watch them be, there is such harmony and balance in the way they co-exist that we can learn from them. I left feeling so energised and connected to everything, including myself, great experience.
3. This third point is very fresh, it literally happened an hour ago or so; I received an email from the daughter of a lady I used to know. It read: Please join us in remembering the life of our Mother, we can’t believe it has been 3 years already. I remembered hearing the news 3 years and how I felt, I met this lady only once and she touched my soul in such a way that I remember her fondly; I sent her daughter an email sharing how much her mother meant to me and how I still remember her, that the Christmas card she gave me all those years ago I still keep and when I read it I feel her Energy, I feel how she empowers me and encourages me to carry on being great and to NEVER give up on my dreams, that whatever I focus on I attract. I felt such gratitude for having met her and having learned so much from her, as I said to her daughter she will forever be in my heart and soul for she has been one of the greatest influences in my life.

Writing this summary of my week is a great strategy for me to go over what I have done, accomplished and learned in the last 7 days, by doing this I feel I am getting from the week twice as much.

It is important to mention my week isn’t that perfect, I have made mistakes, I have cursed things (and myself) at times and there have been seconds in which I feel like: what is the point?

But is having in mind what my friend who passed away 3 years ago said: whatever you focus on you attract, and I have been choosing to focus on the good stuff and sharing it with others so I get more of if and feel the benefits twice as much.

Thank you for reading, till next time,

With all my love,


YOU Are Precious!

Yesterday I was having a good catch-up with a friend and we talked about pretty much there is to talk when 2 friends who haven’t seen each other for a number of months.

As you can imagine this went on for a while, with lots of laughter and banter.

Then we were talking about our careers and goals, at this point we talked about rates and time and I simply said my fees match how much my time is worth as it is precious to me.

My friend looked at me and smiled and he said:

Your time isn’t precious, YOU ARE!

At this point he could see my jaw dropping to the floor.

My friend reminded me of something so simple and powerful which is my worth.

For a while now I have allowed myself to subscribe to the theory that istis our time that is precious… and yes our time is finite and once it is gone that’s it! We can’t get it back…

But hearing my friend reminder I was able to see that it isn’t the time I am investing that is precious, it is my input and what I bring into the hour that makes it precious, how I perceive myself and my worth.

I define how precious my time is based on what I do or don’t with it.

My day was totally enhanced by this realisation/reminder that it doesn’t matter what I do or for how long, I am the one who dictates how precious/valuable what I am doing actually is, not the length of time spent doing it.

Again, this chat with my friend stressed how powerful it is when we allow others in and how much they can teach you in just a few seconds and with very few words.

Thank you for reading, till next time,


Benefits Of Being Organised

Benefits Of Being Organised

Often we hear people saying the secret to their success is: either their organisational skills/time keeping or their drive.

All of these are right and in simplistic terms whatever works for each individual.

I have previously touched on time and drive, so today I thought I’d talk about being organised?

But what are the benefits?

Again, depending on what we are after or our profession, being organised could mean or manifest differently like having systems in place, or being on time, following up or simply getting things done.

I am listing 5 top benefits of being organised in my experience.

1. Peace of mind! I dislike the idea of overcomplicating my life, so I schedule EVERYTHING and stick to that schedule unless I must change it. Having a clear idea lf what I am doing frees me from any of the stresses I may encounter during the day AND it keeps stress itself away.

2. A sense of achievement, it doesn’t matter how big or small a task, if a plan goes as planned it just feels amazing and motivated you to do even more.

3. Frees time for other activities, knowing what to do and when and sticking to that plan means you are time rich, you won’t waste a second unnecessarily and ALL your time will be wisely invested.

4. It gives you more credibility, who doesn’t want to be known as the go getter and the one who gets things done? It is great for our self-esteem too!

5. Gives you time for yourself! Being organised and on top of everything gives you you time! A lot of people feel overwhelmed and snowed under because they aren’t getting things done or lack of organisation.

Let’s be quite frank and honest here, there are two types of people in the world:

• The ones who get through the day, and

• The ones who get from the Day.

Which one are you?

Due to my work I have learned and noticed how our performance is an mirror representation of our inner world.

In fewer words our lack of results is telling us there is something to be dealt with.

The big S or stress is also a HUGE influencing factor in our results and organisational skills.

Stress is much more than being anxious or overwhelmed, it almost literally drives our states and interactions.

If we don’t pay attention to what is happening in our outter world let’s face we won’t know there might be something needing addressing in our inner world.

Remember how previously I have mentioned that the first step to change anything is awareness? If we aren’t aware of the results we are or aren’t producing through our organisational skills we won’t know what needs to be improved.

Isn’t it powerful how the way we do one thing is the way we do everything?

Thank you for reading today’s post, till next time,


How To Feel Great In 1 Minute?

How To Feel Great In 1 Minute?

Often we are told that change takes time, and yes depending on the case it can take some time; and this alone can make us feel overwhelmed and somehow discouraged.

However, I have learned in theory and the hard way that nothing can be started, done or achieved if we aren’t in the right frame of mind OR feeling great.

You can’t be happy if you feel sad, right?

But, how long does it take to feel great?

Forever? Ages? Who knows? How long is a piece of string?

It takes virtually no time to feel great!

I will share 2 things that can make you feel great in 1 minute:

1. Gratitude: you can’t feel ‘miserable’ if you are grateful; often we forget what’s right and what is good in our lives, focus on this and you will see how your mood shifts and you start to feel amazing immediately.

2. Breathe: sometimes we just need to stop and take a deep breath in and let some clarity in so we notice the reality of things, how things aren’t as bad as we make them out to be.

Feeling great isn’t rocket science, it requires practice and knowing what make us feel great.

We live in a society were our culture is that of “instant gratification” and we want most things now!

Even feeling great can be achieved right now… in just under a minute.

Practice these two tips on how to feel great in a minute and do it daily, let this feeling take over your day, week, month AND life.

Allow yourself to feel great.

Thank you for reading.

Till next time, with all my love,


Lessons Learned Through Modern Energy Art

Lessons Learned Through Modern Energy Art


Nothing in life is worth doing if we aren’t learning any lessons from it, either good or bad lessons.

For as long as I can remember I have been a student of life, I guess I have one of those personalities where I have to have answers and if the people I ask don’t have them and I get to work and I do whatever it takes to get those answers.

I believe there are no mistakes or errors or booboos of f*ck ups in life, simply feedback and lessons, we will continue to “mess up” until we learn these lessons and then eventually move on.

Recently talking to a friend I commented on how blessed I was, as for most of my life I have learned through other people’s “mistakes” and “testimonials”, so my learning curve has been rather quick and pleasant too.

In personal development it is said that the first step for change is: awareness.

When you have awareness you literally see magic unfold before your very eyes and EVERYTHING seems to ‘make sense’, it is a great feeling and life becomes a walk in the park.

But what happens when you don’t have this awareness?

Truthfully, not much!!! Life, work, romance, you name it, these things do NOT seem to work at all; we are stressed, ‘under pressure’, we feel useless, overwhelming feelings, etc., etc.

Without awareness life isn’t as joyous or fun. Without it, you don’t know what you are doing right or ‘wrong’, what mistakes are being made, what needs to be improved, whether what you are doing works or not. Simple tasks can take up to twice as long, EVERYTHING becomes a burden or a chore!

If you are like me (especially if you are in personal development), there comes a point when you get to the ‘good stuff’ in your life, and by this I mean the stuff that has not being dealt with before AND this is when real and incredible transformation starts to take place.

Though, two things tend to occur here:

  1. We might not want to talk to anyone, for various reasons; or,
  2. We have no idea what is holding us back.

So, if we don’t have this ‘awareness’ to solve a ‘problem’ because we don’t want to talk about or because we don’t know what it is, what do we do?

More personal development? Or, try something new?

I guess this would be a very personal choice and I will share what I did and what insight and awareness it shone into my life.

Modern Energy Art


When we talk or hear Art, we immediately thing of Picasso, Da Vinci, Michelangelo, etc., people that history has told us are the greatest and most amazing artists EVER, and when we see their art we either think: what a masterpiece or what the hell!

I grew up thinking I was not good at drawing, never mind art.

Memories from childhood would haunt me, having to draw vases, or fruit baskets, or landscapes (the idea of art would trigger the hell out of me!); so, it’d end up either asking my mum to do it for me OR paying my cousin to do it for me.

Arts and Sports were my nemesis at school!

Every time I was colouring something in I’d go out of the edges and I’d lose my temper. In a nutshell, I quit the idea of EVER being an artist at a very young age.

There was no hope in hell for me as an artist, or at least I thought that.

In order for healing to occur and take place something magical has to happen or be done; though, in my experience our instinct (or 6th sense) always knows and when we listen to it we give this healing permission to take place.

I am blessed to say that I ‘almost’ always listen to my 6th sense and when I don’t I regret it immediately.

So, last year a friend, mentor and role model, Silvia Hartmann announced she’d be opening a coaching programme called: Modern Energy Art Apprenticeship; the second I heard about it I knew I had to do it.

However, at first, I made every excuse under the sun as to why I couldn’t do it:

  • Time,
  • Money,
  • Energy,
  • Was it worth it,
  • Do I have all the resources needed,
  • I am not an artist!,
  • What if I can’t do it, etc.

The typical excuses we all make and the ones I encourage my clients to dismiss when they REALLY want something!

Here is the thing, Silvia only opened it to 12 people and the spaces were flying real quick, as many people I suffer from F.O.M.O (fear of missing out), so every time she announced there was another space gone my heart would skip a beat.

I was sat on the fence for days and when there were only two spaces left I jumped in.

So, I got to work and I emailed Silvia for my first task! Originally the idea of doing art by myself without a tutor or teacher by my side was terrifying.

I loved how everything started! Silvia simply asked:

What were your first memories of art?

That was easy for me to answer: I loved playing with crayons when I was a child, I loved the freedom of doodling on the paper for hours on end, the smell of the wax and feeling of the crayons on the paper.

As I was typing the answer I had my first breakthrough and insight! I saw how this was a great investment, opportunity and the vehicle I needed to move to the next level AND I was thankful to my 6th sense for guiding me to it.

Then we moved onto the first drawing, an egg, what a metaphor! The beginning and birth of something new…


So, I did my first egg, it was painted using crayons. When I was drawing and painting the egg I was a child again, full of hope and dreams, the joy and love that irradiated from me at that moment was so healing and powerful that I lost track of time.

The feeling was so addictive that I did 2 more eggs and I had another insight:

I realised how much I judged people! I used to comment about people who were buying colouring books and colouring in instead of getting one with their work and lives; I learned I was the one missing out, I was the one who wasn’t healing nor giving myself the time to reenergise or clear my mind.

More tasks came in and I was producing even more paintings, when I thought I couldn’t paint or do any form of art.

Second insight:

I was making excuses for the sake of making excuses! How can I know I can’t do anything if I don’t give it a go? I couldn’t draw as a child but that doesn’t mean I can’t do it as an adult!

As the days, weeks and months went through I was learning so much about myself, without even looking for these answers!!!


I started to notice improvements in other areas of my life too!

Lessons learned through Modern Energy Art:

  1. I judged people without knowing their motives for doing what they were doing,
  2. I was making excuses for the sake of making them,
  3. I discovered how much of a perfectionist I was and how it was holding me back!,
  4. I realised I dislike the idea of being told what to AND following instructions/systems,
  5. I learned that in order to solve a problem, I must focus on the solution instead of the problem,
  6. When you are ready to be healed the healing event will manifest itself,
  7. Best healing occurs without words,
  8. Energy is ever present and the more Energy you put into something, the more you will get out,
  9. You are responsible for your happiness and joy, you ought to look for what’s missing,
  10. Intuition is everything, our 6th sense is there for a reason, lets use it,
  11. Energy well spent is Energy well invested,
  12. I learned I can do anything and that I am unstoppable, I am the only one who can stop me,
  13. I learned that the past really doesn’t define me, it is what I do in the now that does,
  14. Art isn’t rocket science, it is a form of self-expression therefore an Energy exchange,
  15. I am creative and not just an Artist, but a Modern Energy Artist,
  16. I discovered that I am awesome,
  17. I learned to love my creations, people’s opinions count but they aren’t everything,
  18. I learned to give myself a pat on the back, I am creating magic in my life,
  19. I realised the importance of feedback and how powerful and healing it can be,
  20. I learned there is so much more to discover about me and that I am only getting started!

I have taken a small selection of the lessons I have learned so far, it pleases to know I made the right decision when I took on this programme and how far I have come.

Energy is awareness and it is this what moves us forward and closer to our enlightenment and the life of our dreams.

In conclusion


Energy art is not just art, it is a self-healing tool where you the artist creative art as well as evolve and learn valuable lessons about yourself and your life.

You grow, you evolve, you discover what you are capable of.

Magic appears in your life, stays in your soul and you continue to sparkle towards your awesomeness.

What’s not to like?

Thank you so much for reading and comment on this post and let me know your experiences with art either as an artist or as a admirer.

Till next time,


How To Raise Your Energy Levels?

How To Raise Your Energy Levels?

How To Raise Your Energy Levels

Often people ask me: How on Earth do you manage to do so much? And how come you never seem to be doing much either?

I laugh a little and respond: Because I am smart!

The truth is that THAT is my secret I am smart! What do I mean by smart?

I spend my Energy efficiently AND I know how to get endless amounts of Energy!

That is a big statement I would hear some say and IT IS!

If you read yesterday’s blog post “How to get ‘stuff’ done”, there I mentioned I had to become disciplined AND the person who could achieve the big and ambitious goals I had, but there was something else I was doing that I didn’t discover till years later.

I was managing my Energy levels and state (more of this on another post). I was using Energy techniques that moved me forward and enabled me speed many tasks up.

How do you raise your Energy levels?

Have you noticed how I capitalise the word Energy, for me it is such an underused and underestimated resource.

Firstly, was is Energy?

I think an even better question to ask is what isn’t Energy? Energy is in everything AND it is EVERYTHING!

We find Energy in our foods for our nutrition, we use Energy to power our cars, for electricity, gas, etc., etc., the list can go on and on and on… We even use it in our day to day lives in phrases like, I can feel something is going to happen, or I get a negative vibe from someone…

We aren’t strangers to Energy, yet at the same time we don’t understand it much or use it to our advantage.

Adding to yesterday’s post what I was doing was I was Energising my goals, myself and how I did everything.

Who wouldn’t want a piece of that cake?

There are many ways to raise our Energy levels and I will describe what I used to do to inspire me to get to work quicker and get sh*t done, I’d focus on how achieving that goal would make me feel once I achieved it AND I’d bring that amazing feeling (Energy) to the present and let it drive me to work harder. It worked each and every time. I was up to my neck in tasks and assignments; work was very demanding too and I got it ALL done!

So, as I also mentioned yesterday at that time I started a new relationship, so I would NOT waste a second I had to spare AND I would get ALL of my tasks done as quick and fast as I could, why? I had something to look forward to, my new love wanted to see me, so I’d get to work and seeing him would be my reward.

Similar scenario, there was something motivating me and empowering me to get EVERYTHING done, this driving force this ‘thing’ is our Energy being channelled and put to good work.

Last year, in the first quarter I felt compelled and driven to write a book where I could share with people some of the techniques I have used in the past to raise my Energy AND have fun above all.

What’s the point in doing anything if you can’t have fun, right?

There was one little ‘situation’, I had been using this techniques at a subconscious level which means, I didn’t know I was using them unless someone pointed them out to me, and no one EVER did!

I got to work and I started journaling what I was doing when I was at my most efficient and proactive. I did this for a couple of weeks and I was fascinated by my findings and how simple these techniques were, things that anyone could do at anytime and anywhere!

That’s how 23 Ways To Raise Your Energy Levels came to be, from the desire to be able to tell others how they can raise their Energy too, AND so I knew what I was doing ‘unconsciously” and apply when I needed some extra Energy and when I was ‘feeling sorry’ for myself.

23 Ways To Raise Your Energy Levels

The more Energy you have, the more you can do and the more you can give; Energy goes way beyond physicality, or nutrition, or “drinking coffee/redbull”.

Energy IS real and when you know how to use it to your advantage and to enrich your life, everything changes, you transform and evolve, AND you become the person you know yourself to be.

These techniques aren’t rocket science, I have given you two that aren’t in the book (now I can say I have 25 techniques that raise my Energy levels! Hehe).

Do you want more Energy in your life, then get to work, do something about it NOW!

I produce content and I put it out there for people to benefit from it, so it is up to you now, get your copy of 23 Ways To Raise Your Energy Levels, right here: https://dragonrising.com/store/23_ways_to_raise_your_energy_levels/ and start feeling the benefits right away.

Thank you for reading and till next time.

With all my love,








How To Get ‘Stuff’ Done?

How To Get ‘Stuff’ Done?

How to Get Stuff Done (1)

When I was all “new” to adulthood and goal setting I was totally naïve, I had no idea about what I wanted nor how to get what I wanted.

I had very limited skills, I had a lot “potential” and yet I felt stuck!

Growing up I was very academic, which to be totally honest was more coincidental than anything else as I had a “pushy mother” on the one hand and no friends on the other!

What I mean to say is: studying hard and spending some time gathering information was NOT uncommon for me nor challenging…

So, I got to work and with what I found I was left even more confused!!!

Truthfully, it didn’t take much to confuse me as EVERYTHING was new to me, I became an adult far away from what I was used to: different language, different environment, different culture and I was alone, I had no family with me, just a partner who didn’t know how to communicate the adult stuff to me.

I read and read AND read till my eyes went red and square; I even found myself searching for the meaning of life, there had to be a clue somewhere.

All I found was:

  • You have to be motivated to achieve your goals and get sh*t done,
  • You have to set SMART goals (I did wonder who’d want to set STUPID goals?) LOL!,
  • You have to commit and be accountable for your actions,
  • You have to get to work straight away.

These all made sense and kind of did make a difference in my life at the time, however, it was through my own trial and error that I learned what was missing.

The missing link!

It wasn’t until I was in my late 20’s and tired of the “rat race” and being dictated my worth that I got serious about creating a vision and a very compelling future for myself, so something I have never done had to be done.

What was it?


I had to be disciplined and do what others wouldn’t do to work magic in my life, I wanted to be self-employed and call my shots, I had to be someone else, someone who’d be stopped at NOTHING!

How did I do this?

When I look back and see what I did then I admire myself for the sacrifices made and EVERYHTING I did to make my dreams come true.

I was working full-time for a catering company and at the same time I was studying a full time Management course in my local college, a part time accountancy foundation AND some online courses.

I didn’t sleep more than 3 hours for months and months, I never missed one day at work or college, I submitted all my assignments on time AND I started a new relationship at the same time. If I am honest, the new relationships was the hardest!!!

How to Get Stuff Done (2)

The discipline I introduced into my routine was worthy of the military, up at the crack of dawn and I’d be up until EVERYTHING that had to be done was done. I pushed myself to new heights and I discovered I could do WHATEVER I set my mind to.

If I am honest, my dreams didn’t materialise immediately, it was on the second year of my Management course when I noticed how poorly staff were trained at work, how they were made feel they were unworthy of their jobs and this resulted in all of them having a low self-esteem, ultimately affecting the results at work.

This was the moment I discovered I was only getting started and there was more I had to do to not only work on my terms but to help people overcome their self-esteem and confidence issues, and to provide the appropriate training tools for employers so their staff performance and self-esteem were EVER increasing.

In conclusion

The 2 lessons I learned to get stuff done were:

  • I had to be disciplined, do what I had never done before, go where I had never gone before and do whatever (within reason!) it took to get sh*t done!
  • I had to become someone else, not a crummy version of someone else or a copy-cat, but a me that would stop at NOTHING to make my dreams come true, to overcome the obstacles that would come my way and have the strength I needed to go all the way where my dreams were.

This is what I learned worked for me, becoming disciplined and a better, stronger version of myself, I added these to the goal setting, motivation and ALL the other things I had learned.

You want to know what?

That search I did about the meaning of life did help, it enabled me to distinguish that I had to think of others and have a purpose, essentially become more to do more.

Powerful stuff, right?

I am glad you have read today’s post and I look forward to writing more useful content for you.

With all my love,


My Week In 500 Words – Week 1

My Week In 500 Words – Week 1

I find the beginning of the year a tough time! For the last decade or so I have faced the consequences or reaped the rewards of my actions, the steps taken or not.

So far, I have been working really hard so 2018 is my best year yet! And I know it will be!!!

Clients bookings coming in all directions, students wanting to train with me, my sense of wellbeing and fitness increasing AND in the right direction, motivating and inspiring others and myself at the same time.

All these boxes and some more have been ticked so far, in the last week, in the first 7 days of the year.

I have taken the time to reflect on 2017 and all the incredible lessons I brought with me to this year, I set very clear and empowering goals that WILL transform many lives.

At midnight when we entered into 2018 I made the conscious decision that I would raise my standards AND the bar so high so that I can become the person that can achieve my ambitious goals.

I’ve had the honour to spend some precious time with my partner and creating memories that will bring us closer together and take us to new heights personally and in our relationship. I reflected on how incredibly fortunate I am to have him by my side, for being my rock and support at ALL times.

My health has become so important to me that I have almost become evangelical about the importance of being healthy or healthier and creating a movement of health to empower and heal the world. So, now my next big goal is my fitness, I want to achieve the body and fitness level I deserve and that requires some discipline.

Yesterday was such a great day as I caught up with a friend and our conversation was so healing and powerful for the both of us and I am EVER so grateful to have that calibre of people in my live, it’s a joy!

As if things weren’t great enough I committed myself to writing my first fiction novel to a room of 15 people, who are aspiring writers! They will hold me accountable for it and it is a great feeling to know there are people who barely know you and yet they care about you honouring your word!

Gosh, I am so blessed I sometimes forget how lucky I am to be where I am and doing what I am doing! Yes, I know I have worked for it but to be able to reflect on it and see it on a regular basis is such a blessing.

I can confirm and announce that my first week in 2018 has been an amazing and powerful week that I am so excited and looking to discovering what else will be coming my way in the next days, weeks and months.

To an even better year.

Forever yours,


How Much Can A Conversation Help You?

We love to talk and have a conversation with everyone around us, these connect us and can be healing too, for all those involved.

Though, in my personal experience and that of my clients, family and friends we just talk about the superficial stuff and take everything else for granted OR we think others won’t care.

I used to withhold and be shallow and superficial in my conversations, they didn’t take me far and almost cost me my life.

I felt alone, lonely, unwanted and a burden to my family and society, but everyone thought I was fine and just another moody teenager.

The day after my suicide attempt that withholding stopped and I opened up, I spoke to someone about my life and how I felt.

That conversation without a shadow of a doubt saved my life, I learned people cared and they’d do whatever they can to help… all that is needed is for us to open up.

Why am I going on about this?

This year I have made myself the commitment to be there for everyone I know and to make new friends.

Today a friend phoned me and asked me round so I went and we had such a great conversation that lasted for hours.

What was great about this conversation was the generosity and honesty of every word spoken, we just had a real and open conversation.

We didn’t pretend to be anyone else but ourselves, we didn’t have to mind our every word and openly would disagree with each other without arguing about it.

That honesty and openness opened a gate of compliments and kindness and love that you don’t see every day.

Here is what we fail to do in our conversations, we are (or can be) very stingy and inauthentic… these create blockages and barriers that stop the real communication and there is almost no real content to it all.

It was a great reminder of the magic that takes place when we openly, honestly and humanly talk to another person AND the connection it strengthens, and the feeling afterwards is so rewarding.

Talking about ourselves can be scary and awkward at first but over time it gets easier to openly talk about what is worrying us and our concerns, and problems.

I invite you to have more open and honest conversations with your loved ones, and please let me know how these enrich your lives. Give it a go.

Till next time, with all my love,


Why Am I A Vegan?

Why Am I A Vegan?


You are a what?


Where do you get your protein from?


Is that even safe?


How do you know you are actually saving the planet?


You? No F*cking way!

Veganism is a concept that is new to some and those who know about it have their own idea of what veganism is, it kind of reminds me of the idea we have of spiritual people, hippies with dreadlocks, living in the woods and drinking ayahuasca on a regular basis!

It is easier to talk to people about same sex relationships (and even sex!) than to explain veganism! Some people don’t get it and that is OK.

What I wanted to do today was to tell you why I am a vegan and perhaps educate you a bit further and help you to understand people’s choices and decisions without any judgement. Doesn’t that sound good to you?

Before I go any further I want to take you back to 2003 when I heard of the term vegan/veganism for the first time, it was at college when I was learning catering and hospitality. Bear in mind English isn’t my first language and I had just (almost literally!) landed I thought what the hell is that, who wouldn’t want to eat meat?

We cooked some dishes and they were brilliant! I ate them all… In fact, I am known for always eating EVERYTHING!!!

I tried the “vegetarian thing” in ’05 and at the time I was in a relationship with a huge meat eater he said to me you won’t last and I said: watch me!

First night I couldn’t NOT eat meat, I cooked his dinner and I cheated immediately!!! He laughed and simply said: Told ya!!!

I kept at it (without cheating) for two more weeks and I failed miserably, it was tough, and I loved meat too much to give it up.

Then, a vegan came into my life and she looked like hell!!! I mean she looked anaemic, unhealthy and she wasn’t advertising veganism very well.

We became really good friends so good that we travelled together, and she’d tolerate me eating animal flesh in front to her without judging me (that is huge!). In 2010 we travelled together to the Czech Republic and she witnessed how I devoured 1 kg of pure Argentinian fillet steak (trying to prove how macho I was!) and then watched how I vomited it back onto the platter it was delivered in!

I was born to be a meat eater! No kidding… You should feel how sharp my teeth are!!!

Come on, when you come from a developing country you know you aren’t that poor when you are eating meat, and boy did my parents work hard so we always had meat on our plates, it’d be a small piece, a token that we weren’t that poor.

So, when I made it to the first world, I had to eat tons of meat, right?

2013 arrived and it was a funny year, I had been on a journey (of self-discovery) and I had tried veganism for a short while (before attending a shamanic gathering) and I wanted to become more connected to source, god and humans so I made the decision to become a vegan!

You are reading well, the guy who thought eating meat was cool because it meant you weren’t poor.

At first, I felt amazing, I was definitely getting what I wanted which was connection and affinity to others. I could see auras and sense people’s feelings and emotions, it was great. By then, I had a new partner (and still together) and we had a very social life, always out and that meant restaurant dinners, alcohol and it felt awkward going out because I wanted what everybody else was having, but I was a vegan, so I wouldn’t.

I’d be teased and I’d end up arguing back and it wasn’t pleasant. I hated every second of it.

Towards the end of the year (I’d only been a vegan for 5 months by then), I was being attuned to Reiki and I said to my Reiki Master I hate being a vegan, it feels I am punishing myself by not eating what I want to eat, to which she replied:

Then don’t do it!

So, that was my veganism gone out the window. I went back to eating meat and did I catch up or what!!!

The next couple of years I’d be eating without a care and stuffing my face (and gut) with whatever animal product or by-product I could find AND you’d be surprised to hear how easy to find they are!!! Almost as if they wanted you to have them… (no comments there!!!)

Towards the end of 2015, beginning of 2016 I’d be telling my partner, almost as if I was craving it, I wanted to go vegan (again!) and I wanted his support and he’d say: nah! Waste of time, see what happened last time…

He was right! It was very likely I’d end up eating meat again.

As you can see there was no way on this planet (or universe) I’d end up being a vegan again.

I had, however noticed how many more vegan options there were compared to when I was a vegan (it had improved a great deal), also tons and tons of information about animal cruelty and side effects of eating dairy and animal products.

Then 2017 was here, the beginning of the year was testing me I had some rubbish news (more of that at another time), I was also concerned about my liver and its enzymes levels.

I was off to Panama and I was partying a lot, so lots of alcohol (24/7), eating lots of animal products and by-products (also 24/7). Met my partner in New Orleans (highly recommend it, will deffo go back there soon!) and more alcohol and more animal products.

By this point I was at my heaviest and I was not happy with the size of my belly and how round my face looked, didn’t mind my big butt, though!

Back in the UK, from the 27th to the 30th of April 2017 I was attending a live seminar in London, UPW – Unleash the Power Within with Tony Robbins and the last day (30th of April), was a pivotal moment in my life!

I had the veil removed from face, the blindfold behind this veil taken off and for the first time, EVER, I was able to see how I had been poisoning my body, my life and my soul.

The information shared on the last day, showed and scientifically proved how having animal products, animal by-products, refined sugars, processed foods, coffee and alcohol are NOT good for us but instead LETHAL to us.


Once this information was given to us and a 10-day chllenge too, I was up for it. I was going to give these 10 days my all, and I even thought of going EVERYTHING free for a whole month!

End of month one, 1 st lost and I felt amazing; so I rolled onto my second month and still going now, on my 9th month… I think I am due a “vegan baby” soon!!!

What I took away from that event is that I had not been informed/educated about the health benefits of a plant-based/vegan lifestyle.

Please, notice how I used the word LIFESTYLE, veganism is not a diet, it is a lifestyle, a way of being where your choices are for the benefit of others and yourself; AND this includes of peace of mind.


Previously, on my first vegan attempt I failed because it was ALL ABOUT ME! I didn’t see the bigger picture about being a vegan or veganism.

I did my due diligence (which I highly encourage you to do too!!!), and I was shocked to learn what I did.

All my life I have been very fortunate, I am truly blessed and I have taken my education very seriously so I was in a position where I could see and understand how I was conditioned to be and act in a specific way and quite frankly I was not ever given the choice to be a meat eater or something else, like a veggie or a vegan.

Many slogans and phrases tell us to eat and consume animal products and by-products and that is OK, I have no problem with it, we all make our own decisions.

I have made mine, too!

When I started this journey, I started as a plant-based vegan, and what that means is I was doing it for health reasons or to drop a few pounds, which I did by the way, all 28 of them.

In case you were wondering about my liver, I was told (very coldly, by the way!):

You have a fatty liver, if you carry on doing what you were doing you are going to kill yourself!

(Oh, she knew how to deliver that!)

So, she continued…

Just in case you don’t understand what that means… you have a foi gras as a liver!

God, she knew how to paint that picture!!!

I got these news on my 3rd month as a vegan (or first trimester – if my vegan baby is coming!) and I dread to imagine what these results had been like if hadn’t been doing something different.

The more and more I learned the more I was able to see the bigger picture…

As a plant-based vegan I was NOT making any difference at all!

Wearing leather, wearing fur (which I did have till not so long ago!) is still encouraging industries to rear animals and that that is NOT who I want to be, a promoter of cruelty and destruction.

I also understood that as a spiritual person, healer and someone in personal development encouraging these industries was against what I was promoting, against the brand I want to be/have, in terms of health and morality!

I felt cheap and a hypocrite to have leather and fur in my wardrobe and call myself a vegan.

Yes, I get some people’s arguments; the animal is dead and all of that…

The truth is…


Did you know we are overfishing and killing fish that are too small or have no use for us?

Did you know it takes tons and tons of animal feed to feed these animals and the same space could be used to feed the starving people in the world?

Did you know we are killing the planet by taking away forests so we can have food and space for these animals?

I can’t give exact figures… but use your imagination, it is a lot of animals and a lot of space.

It gets worse… (sorry not my intention!)

We are killing ourselves when we eat animal flesh (that is what it is!), and animal by-products… they take energy from us!!! The nutritional value is NOT worth the hassle.

Then we go onto the pollution… our greed and lack of sensitivity have caused us to throw our waste and rubbish everywhere… punishing little selfless animals and people who have done nothing to deserve it!!!

I even laugh when I watch people asking for money to save an endangered species… WE have driven that animal to almost become extinct by messing its environment and then ask for £3/per month to save it???

Does that even make sense?

To save those animals we have got to STOP messing with their environment and killing them because they may eat our “meat”…

WE do not make sense…!!!

There are countless other examples that have made my desire to continue this lifestyle for ever because I do not wish to contribute to the extinction of our planet, not on my watch or on this lifetime.


We talk about love, loving our neighbours, loving our children, loving pets, loving god and the truth is: OUR ACTIONS DEMONSTRATE THE OPPOSSITE!

I am not here to judge or criticise, I am here to share with you why a meat eater like I used to be, in fact many of my friends say: you were the biggest meat eater I knew; I am here to shine a light onto what it means being a vegan and why reducing the amount of animal products or even becoming vegan can be the solution to many of our human problems.

I swore I’d never be one of “them” vegans, and here I am now proud to be one of THEM, because these were visionaries who decades ago saw what was coming and we have failed to put a stop to it.

It is NOT too late, we can turn things around and start living greener and healthier lives; I am 100% here to promote the salvation of humanity’s health and our planet.

I have met many people who think their actions don’t matter and they are wrong, ALL of our actions matter AND it is the compounded effect of all us doing something that can make a huge difference, starting today!

WE ALL MATTER and I am here to remind you of that!

I am here to tell you that you can save not only the planet but BILLIONS of lives, including yours.

That my dears is why I AM A VEGAN!

Thank you for reading and please share this post,

With all my love,








You Are Amazing

You Are Amazing


There are so many things I loooove doing and I do my best to do them all so I don’t feel I am missing out on anything.

One of these things is writing poetry.

I was ever so fortunate when I was in middle and high school as I had the most passionate teachers in literature and poetry, I loved reading the books assigned not only because they told a story or taught me something new but because I got to step into the author/narrator’s mind and interpret what he meant at the time.

Even to this day I have so much respect for those ladies who gave so much, and I honour them by writing non-fiction books and poetry.

So, back in November 2017 a mentor asked to write a poetry to recite in front of an audience at a conference I was attending at the time, I couldn’t say no AND I had no time to write it, also I hadn’t written anything for a while, so it felt a bit challenging.

I let my innate intelligence guide my fingers over the keys and I let the words flow as if an unknown energy took over me and this is what came out.

You are amazing!

The words, the energy and the sentiment behind this poem are a celebration to life and to love and to us.

This is one of my favourite poems to date, so enjoy it.

Please share this poems in your social networks and spread this celebration.

With all my love,



You Are Amazing


Wondrous and marvellous being,

YOU were born out of a miracle,

Out of the universe of love YOU came from,

The chances were slim, yet you made it.


The day to arrive into this world came,

You fought and you pushed and out you came.

The light you saw and a deep breath you took, AND

Out a scream of LIFE came marking your arrival.


Hours, days and months of learning and growing came,

Everything was, oh so new and yet all so familiar,

You fell, you failed, you cried and AGAIN you stood,

Your sheer resilience and tenacity NEVER let you down.


Do YOU even know what an incredible GIFT to this world YOU are?

You are an inspiration, you are a god among us,

Yet, you seem to have forgotten who you REALLY are!

So, here I am a messenger from heavens to tell you just that.


Your life and what you do matters, YOU matter,

Cast the doubt and the fear to one side and break free,

Step into your greatness, let the light a new way show you,

Let your life be that of your dreams, be a flame in the fire of life.


Your thoughts, your ideas and EVERYTHING you do the world they can change,

You have forgotten the essence of who you are,

You have let the noises from the world around drown you and your awesomeness,

WAKE UP, STAND UP, STEP UP, TAKE A STAND and reveal who you TRULY are.


Listen to my words, hear my message,

I believe in you, I know who you really are,

Stop playing small, this is NOT your real role,

You are, oh so much more.


Riches, wealth and infinite abundance your birthright are,

Anything you can have, but the do must you do,

And firstly you ought to be, not anything nor anyone,

Be, be you, be who you know yourself to be.


Magic, love, passion AND so much more,

Listen to the voice of your heart, feel the fire burning in your soul,

Be, live, love, find yourself, free yourself,

Wake up to the real you, and live for the first time.

Learn, unlearn and most importantly relearn,

That you are love, that you are important,

That there is no one like you,

Nor there will EVER be ANYone like you!







Written by Jorge Vence

You are amazing

5 Lessons Learned From Watching Molly’s Game

5 Lessons Learned From Watching Molly’s Game


These days it is almost essential to have a way to unwind and forget about stress or worries, just for a short while anyway.

Some of us are quite sneaky and savvy and take this unwinding period and get the most from it.

Remember you either go through your day or get from the day. I know what I’d much rather do…

As you will know I am a coach, trainer, author, poet, healer, chef, entrepreneur and I love learning; some would say I never switch off!

Some people say/ask how do they even relate?

They have two things in common me and Energy; Energy is in EVERYTHING and it is what makes things come together, make sense and materialise them before our own eyes.

So, on New Year’s day my partner and I went to the movies to watch Molly’s Game, I was expecting just another film with a bit of action here and there and when you stripped all the good bits away you’d end up with nothing.

Truth be told because of my vivid and wild imagination I find movies predictable, boring and quite frankly marketing vehicles where we all can see who is sponsoring the movie!!!

Boy meets girl, fights enemy, wins or loses and the end… Joseph Campbell’s The Hero’s Journey, story telling, novel writing 101…! – No sarcasm intended I promise! – OK, maybe a little.

My expectations were pretty low, I just fancied a nice time with my other half welcoming 2018 romantically and calmly.

But boy I was not expecting to get so many life lessons from that movie.

Here are the 5 lessons learned from watching Molly’s Game

1. We are too quick to judge our parents: Without going into too many details as to what happens in the movie, Molly’s relationship with her dad was far from ideal, leading to a broken relationship in her adult life, what she doesn’t know is that her dad always loved her and he was too ashamed of himself and what he had done in the past. We often judge our parents and create a story in our heads as to why they are the way they are, we buy into this story and we don’t let go of it. Parents are humans too and they do the best they can with the resources available to them. Let’s be kind to them (this includes me too!)!
2. It only takes one second to change the course of our lives (for the better or for the worse!): Molly by many people’s standard was a bright kid with everything going for her, though one accident made her decide to take a year off and head to LA, there she meets someone who’d introduce her a life and lifestyle she’d soon become addicted to, getting deeper and deeper into an abyss of greed, luxuxy and a life many of us would consider impossible, yet she orchestrated it and created it herself from scratch, bringing to life the ideal fantasy for powerful men. Had that accident never happened, how would her life be different?
3. Intelligence and potential does no equal success: it is hard to believe that someone bright, sharp and with the world at their feet would jeopardise it all by going in the opposite direction, sadly we all know that that is not the case. I have seen it in my life and with many of my clients, we seem to have it all set for us and events AND our sense of unworthiness sabotage it, and unavoidably we end up further away from where we were expected to be by ourselves and others. This reminds me something one of my tutors from college said to me once: real intelligence is not what you know but how you apply what you know.
4. It is one belief or decision that shapes our lives and destiny: there is a powerful moment in the movie (I say powerful as it almost reduced me to tears!) where Molly is met by her dad and they had a long overdued conversation. Here her dad who in the movie is a psychologist says Molly you are addicted to the power over powerful men, that’s why you do what you do. Incredibly powerful statement and insight as to why she did what she did, loving the feeling of being in control and being powerful over the most influential and powerful men in the world, just because she wanted to prove to her dad she was powerful too! Awareness doesn’t get any better than this. One belief, one decision that drives to do unthinkable and crazy stuff without us being fully aware of it.

5. To wake up from our carelessness and destructive behaviours something bad has to happen: as crazy as it may sound we let things go further than they should. In the movie there are two scenes that were her wake-up call; the first one is when she gets a beating for not liaising with some gangsters and the second when the FBI gets involved! I know these are extreme cases but when we look around us people’s lives are transformed and shaped by violence, crime, abuse, drugs, alcohol, bullying. I have known of people who had to be arrested to start a ‘new life’, the death of a child or parent, illness and disease, it doesn’t matter how big or small it may appear to us but these pivotal moments have the leverage to force us to make new decisions.
In conclusion 

I thoroughly enjoyed watching the movie and I felt I was the viewer who got away with all the good stuff. I felt truly blessed to have watched this movie and take this as a warning of how things can turn out IF I don’t stay on course or IF I don’t seek the help I need or IF I don’t get the support I need.

As Jim Rohn used to say there are two types of stories:
• Stories of success and inspiration, and
• Warnings: DO NOT DO THIS!!!

Surprisongly in Molly’s case her story is a bit of both: it is a warning and it is a success, waking up on time and turning her life around and sharing it with the world.

If you get the chance go and watch this movie and see it as more than a movie, well it is more than a movie as it is based on a true story and I believe she has been kind enough to share it with us.

I saw areas of my life in which I have been careless and now I can rectify them and stay on course, carry on with my purpose and continue to inspire others.

This is it for today. Carry on being awesome.

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Have a sensational day.

With all my love,


How I Lost 2 Stone In 2 months AND Kept Them Off

How I Lost 2 Stone In 2 months AND Kept Them Off



This is the very first time in many years that a new year starts and weight loss is NOT one of concerns, so no new year’s resolution in that area for me!

How on earth did I manage to do that?

Gosh, I will do my best to share with you my weight loss triumph really short, as I wasn’t even intending to lose any weight to begin with.

Before I go into all the nitty gritty details there is a little confession I have to make:

I had an eating disorder and I did NOT know about it…

If you know me you might even be screaming at this post as you’d find hard to believe it.

So, what do I mean when I say I had an eating disorder?

For starters I was the average man, a few pounds fluctuating here and there and in terms of my physical appearance I looked OK, fit some would say.

I bought into that story too! I am OK, I look OK I just let myself go for a little while and I will lose these 10 lbs in no time, and it was a vicious circle that almost never ended.

I went from weighing 64 kg (approx. 141 lbs) to weighing 72 kg (159 lbs) in 2 years (2009-2011) and gained a further 2 kg for the next 6 years reaching my highest and heaviest weight EVER at 85 kg back in April 2017.

21 kg were gained in just 8 years!!! That is an average of just under 3 kg in a year and I didn’t notice. I know it doesn’t sound much but compounded it is a lot, specially when you have photographic evidence of befores and afters and you are needing to buy new clothes sometimes too often.

Also, let’s be a bit honest and clear about something here and that is I’ve been going to the gym a bit more in the last 5 years, so yes there has been an increase in muscle mass but the vast majority of my weight gain was fat.

Does this resonate with you too?

What happened then?

At the end of April 2017 when I came back from Holidays from Panama and the US I attended a seminar by Tony Robbins, UPW – Unleash The Power Within.

I have never jumped so much in my life! Good god, I think I lost a couple of pounds in sweat from all the jumping I did in 4 days.

If you know of Tony Robbins he is just sensational, it was a great experience to be in that environment, especially having been face to face with him.

The first 3 days were about peak states and state management and how to create a powerful life, I totally loved that and I’d do it all over again.

It wasn’t until the 4th day that I had a penny drop moment, an aha moment that would transform the way I was relating to my health and my body.

The last day of UPW was about Energy and Nutrition!

From the word go I was in shock and horrified to discover how rubbish my lifestyle and diet were!!! Shocking…

I mean, for someone who claimed to love himself fully I was killing myself without even knowing I was doing it.

I learned and discovered that I was depleting my energy and robbing myself from much needed resources of energy.

I realised I was eating the wrong foods, at the wrong times and mixing the wrong foods altogether.

For the first in a long time, I had an honest conversation with myself:


What have you been doing with your life?

Why has it taken you this long to look into nutrition and lifestyle choices?

(That’s how the conversation went BTW!)


I was petrified and disgusted that I didn’t know I was poisoning my body and slowly killing myself.

Someone showed me and taught me a lesson I had to learn, making it a pivotal moment in my life.

Without going into too much detail as to what was discussed that day, at the end of that day we were given a 10-day challenge.

Here, we had to go without the following, for 10-days:

  • Coffee,
  • Animal flesh and by-products,
  • Dairy products,
  • Processed foods,
  • Refined carbohydrates, and
  • Gluten.

One of the funniest moments was hearing the audience gasp every time an item was mentioned… Cries and upsets from all directions!!!

10-days without coffee?


No cheese?

No bread?

At that moment I decided to be honest with myself and I said 10-days is not enough to turn my life around and achieve the results I am after.

I am extending this challenge to 30-days, which Tony advised anyway.

He did say:

You do this for 10-days and your body will thank you for it, but if you do it for 30-days you will transform your life for EVER!!!

And he was right!

May 2017 came and from the 1st I made the commitment to myself I’d be a Vegan for a month.

Day 1 no problem, day 2 piece of cake, day 3 what’s the big deal… day 30 OMFG I have lost 1 st, and I felt amazing.

June came and I was committed to be a Vegan for another month and I lost yet another stone.

At this moment I had so much energy that I had forgotten what it was like to have that much energy, I was exercising and doing yoga and doing things I used to love doing and it felt just right.

July, August… December, January 2018 and I am still a Vegan and still not taking any of those poisons.

Lessons learned

I learned (almost the hard way), I was living in toxicity.

My whole adult life I had been slowly killing myself to fit it and because it was cool or because I could.

I used to be a chef (still am BTW) and I was taught (aka conditioned) the heavier and richer a meal, the better, it had more flavour!!! What a lie…

Caffeine, society’s best friend, for the fast-paced lifestyles we have! Total and utter cr*p!

Alcohol, as Tony calls it the drink of decay, and boy does it have some crazy effects on us, makes us hungry when we have been on a bender and clouds our choices and decisions, yet we have been conditioned to drink alcohol to celebrate life! Really?

We wanted more technology, we wanted more choices and yes we have them now, but the price we pay for this technology is our health. Ready meals, take outs, restaurant meals and some people don’t even know who to cook! Shocking!!! Shame on us… These are fastest ways to an early grave (unless you eat healthy meals when out or healthy take outs!!!) !!!

Time seems to be against us… and I repeat seems to!!!

I have now more time to spare than I did before, because I have the energy to take and tackle any task, I am energy rich now. Are you?

I learned that the only person who can really look after my health is myself, it is my responsibility (to myself, my family, my dreams and the world!!!) and no one else’s. It is my life and I got to take care of it. End of!

What did I do then?

As I already mentioned I eliminated all of those poisons from my diet.

So, I started to eat fresh (live) fruit and vegetables and use the least possible processed ingredients I could find.


I also did a 30-days programme using some vegan supplements and proteins that would help with introducing me to a healthier and sustainable lifestyle adjustment and it did just that!

30-Days To Healthy Living

All I did was follow the instructions of this programme to the letter and had fun in the process.

I was eating so many healthy and nutritious foods that my body loved feeling so great and being able to perform tasks in an even faster manner.

At the age of 34 I felt even better than when I was 21, and boy do I need a lot of energy for what I do.

I started to give my body, my temple the fuel it really needed, not silly sugary things or coffee or energy drinks that would cause my sugar levels to go up and down and then end up without any energy, anyway!

I started to give my body, myself and my life the respect they deserved, that I deserve.

I learned to authentically respect myself through respecting my body and creating a lasting and sustainable lifestyle change.

How can you experience the same results as me?

Lifestyle changes and adjustments are simple but not easy, they require discipline, support and a real commitment from you to yourself.

I will share something I hear very often from prospective clients and friends and family:

I really want to lose some weight… but you are too far!

I really want to lose some weight… but it is too expensive!

I really want to lose some weight… but I can’t cook!

I really want to lose some weight… but I don’t have time to do it!

I really want to lose some weight… but I don’t have the energy to do it!

I really want to lose some weight… but I can’t do this nor that!

I really want to lose some weight… but I don’t know how to!

To which I very kindly give them the best solutions to help solve their problems and those who still decline or let their problem win I just say:

Then you don’t really want to lose any weight because when you REALLY want to do anything or achieve any goal you WILL find the time, money, energy and resources to make it happen.

I was time poor because I had no energy, and now I have the energy and guess what more time too.

So, if you want to explore more and do this 30-days programme visit this site and take a look at the products and buy them, then get in touch with me and I will help you achieve your health goals for 2018.

If the idea of veganism horrifies you, do NOT worry because you can do this programme eating lean meats.

Anything in moderation is OK, if you wish to take it further afterwards even better.

A life well lived is a well spent!

Most of us go through life rather than getting from life, most of us waste our lives rather than spending wisely.

Things are changing rapidly around us and only those who are well equipped will adapt to those changes. Will you be one of them?

One last thing before finishing here:

Recently I read a post from an acquaintance on FB and here she was talking about loving and accepting yourself as you are with or without curves, I totally get that and I also promote that.

Here is where our opinions differ:

You can be poor but healthy.

You can be rich but healthy.

You can be overweight but healthy (which more often than not is NOT the case!).

You can be underweight but healthy.

Health is the key and answer to true happiness, we are what we eat and we aren’t what we are NOT eating. You cannot be happy if you aren’t healthy but you can be very happy if you are living healthily.

Health is best experienced than it is explained. Just do it!

Eat yourself to health and fitness OR eat yourself to an earlier grave.

In the end the choice is always ours.

I will ALWAYS choose HEALTH.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and please take a look at this 30-day programme and take action NOW!

Share the gift of health with your friends and family, share this post too!

With all my love,



Once Upon A Time…

Once Upon A Time…

Once upon a time there was a very kind deity that gave all of his creation a whole new start.

Their lives started afresh and hope was renewed.

These beings (who totally underestimated what they were capable of) were given new opportunities annually.

365 days, composed of 52 weeks, 12 months, 8760 hours, 525600 minutes and 31536000 seconds filled with so much energy and all the required ingredients to make any of these beings successful and fulfilled beyond their wildest dreams and imagination.

At midnight where the old and the new year met and changed their course billions of these beings would make promises, cast wishes and would swear the year ahead would be their best ever.

Here is where the twists and turns of this story begin…

These beings would celebrate drinking the nectar of decay to numb themselves from the year past, their consciousness would be wiped out and all of their abilities would be compromised.


Cheers and cries of both sadness and joy would be heard, a false sense of safety, connection and hope would be felt, beings from all over the place would gather and witness how the years crossed and changed their directions.

Old and young, males and females, educated and uneducated would stand side by side and start the countdown…

5, 4, 3, 2, 1…



The cheer and joy would be contagious.

Oh I love you man, this is your year I know it, I can feel it, no man this is our year, we have worked so hard and it is only fair.

The drinking of this nectar would continue, it was such a profitable business for its distributor.

Other more ‘sophisticated’ or wealthier or sillier beings would even purchase other substances to heightened their joy and euphoria and welcome the new year in a real ‘high’.

This gathering, party of the new year would last for many hours and even days if the time of the week allowed it.


The first day of the year, at the very beginning of this new era of hope, the WHOLE planet would be unconscious, wasted and numbed, the false illusion of certainty would have them helpless in what could be the most important day of their lives.

A day becomes 2 days and 3 and 4 days and next thing the ‘mañana’ syndrome starts to spread.


I will do it in a minute, this minute’s life span seems to break all the laws of the universe as it gets longer and longer and longer and nothing gets done, the task is ‘brushed under the carpet’ and they start to doubt themselves.

This pandemic would spread worldwide and noone would talk about it, heads would be ‘buried in the sand’ and they would continue to pretend everything was fine.

Beliefs would be formed at a conscious and unconscious levels…

I don’t deserve it,

I am not good enough,

I can’t do it,

People like me don’t deserve happiness,

If only I was taller,

If only I was slimmer…

Negative thoughts would pile on top of each other compounding their effect and you could see in these beings faces their hopes and desires for the year started to fade away…

Just another year, same “crap” just another decade…

Life will never change for us… only the ‘chosen ones’ get what they want in life…

Sighs of resignation and cynicism would soon spread across the globe and then the news would start…


Poverty is at its highest and doubled since last year,

Exploitation has quadrupled since the beginning of records,

Slavery has resurfaced this time as voluntary slavery…


Home repossessions, etc, etc…


These news would demoralise these beings and the light of hope they brought with them into the new year would soon disappear.

Their lives and world would see their colour fade away slowly until it totally disappeared and black and white would appear and take everything with it.

But if only…

They did something different the whole year and perhaps their lives would follow a different route.

They hadn’t explored of what it’d be like welcoming the new year sober or at least ‘semi-conscious’ and start with a clear head.

If the only knew how starting not so much the day but the year with a clear head and started to:

• Reflect on the year gone what worked and what didn’t work,

• What could be done differently,

• New career path in order to fulfil their dreams,

• Write down their goals and focused on what they really wanted to achieve in life,

• Doing something that moves them closer to their goal on a daily basis, from day one,

• Being honest with themselves and change what needs to change so their lives improve,

• Ask for help,

• Save for something worthwhile or important,

• Learn to be kind to themselves. 


If only they knew that their power is unlimited and anything is at their disposition.

If they only knew that the only thing that has stopped them all those previous years has been themselves and that they only need some guidance and support to help them on their way.

If they only knew that the most important moment of the day is their right now, the second they hesitate to take action because none was taken a second earlier. That the new year, new me; new year, better luck is but a myth.

If they only knew that yesterday’s mistakes and lack of results do not equal tomorrow’s failures but instead tomorrow’s lessons and feedbacks.

If instead of quitting on the 10th of January they carried on till the end of the year or beyond, until those dreams come true.

If they only knew that they are ALL the ‘chosen ones’, that anything worth having is worth working for and never stopping until it materialises and fulfill them to the core of their beings.


If they only knew that their lives and their stories are worth sharing with the rest of the world AND that they deserve happiness, joy and a lifetime of achievement.

If they only knew that they can do anything, and that there wasn’t a force strong enough to stop them from accomplishing their goals and fulfilling their lives.

If they only knew beliefs and behaviours are stories they keep telling themselves over and over and over again AND that they can override those stories any time and tell themselves a new empowering and uplifting story instead.

If they only knew that their lives matter and that by them living a powerful and magical life the WHOLE world would be inspired to follow suit and live a powerful and magical life.

If they only knew and realised that a life well lived is a life with ups and downs, triumphs and failures and always arriving at that goal that makes it all worth it.

If they only knew that people care about their happiness and achievements and that love and support were there for them if they needed them.


Though, it isn’t until one of them wakes up and shares with others what’s possible and becomes the evidence that the rest will follow.

All it takes is a person in a family, in a community, in a village, in a province, in a country to defy the odds and become the evidence.

So, in the end it is a choice what makes all the difference in these beings lives, do they continue doing what they have always done, or do they start a new paradigm?

The truth is we will only know when we hear about it through their stories, and anecdotes till then we can only wonder what happens next in the lives of these beings…

When a person reaches their full potential magic occurs AND people start dreaming again and getting to work, so life and love and hope start to spread like wildfire and people become an unstoppable force.

All it takes is one person who says yes to living, yes to life, yes to love and yes to creating a magnificent life.

Are you willing to be that person?

Happy New Year, may 2018 be the year in which your passion and love for life become contagious and you end up touching the lives of countless others.

With all my love,


3 Top Tips To Finish The Week Strong 

3 Top Tips To Finish The Week Strong

Each week towards the end of the week most people tend to slow down and get ready for the weekend.

Energy levels seem to deplete and important tasks are neglected.

It is 100% normal to feel that as we are looking forward to unwinding and relaxing at the weekend.

What if I told you that it is possible to maintain your energy levels steady and firing on all cylinders till the end of the week?

So, you can enjoy your weekend knowing you did all you had to do during the week and not dread going back to work on Monday.

Does that sound familiar?

Here are my 3 top tips to finish the week strong.

  1. Focus on the task at hand. When we think of the all the nice things we are going to be doing with our friends and family at the weekend work can seem boring and we start feeling demotivated wishing it was Friday 5 PM now. We struggle to focus on what we are doing and start clock watching. By focusing on what you are doing only, you are more likely to finish it quicker, giving you more momentum to tackle more tasks during the day.
  2. Take enough breaks. For every 45/50 mins work some experts recommend we should take between 5-10 mins break to allow the brain to recover and regain its strength.
  3. Raise your energy levels. The more energy we have the more responsive we are to the tasks at hand. If you want to complete all your daily and weekly tasks simply raise your energy levels and it will enable you to find the resources and creativity to finish what you are doing.

Finishing our week strong is a matter thinking strategically and effectively and investing ourselves where it is needed the most.

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post.

Till next time,


How do you review the month gone?

How do you review the month gone?

Often it can be a “challenge” to measure how far we have gone because of the lack of clear and well-formed goals.


How do you review your month at the end of it?


To determine whether we achieved our goals or not all we have to do is to look at the results we have produced.


Asking yourself the following questions is a great to measure your results:


Are they exactly as we planned them out to be?


Are they even better?


Is there more to be done?


What didn’t you do?


What could have been done better?


What will you be doing differently next time?


Alternatively, do you feel satisfied and fulfilled by your results?


What are other people saying about your results?


What will you put in place for the following month, so your outcomes, goals and targets are met?


What habits will you start implementing in your life?


Who are you going to become to be in alignment with your goals?


You see how can “simple” it is and can be to review your goals at the end of the month, you can do the same at the end of the day, end of the week; and put new strategies in place
to ensure you meet your goals.


Till next time,



Monday Strategy!

Monday Strategy!

Who said we all had to hate Mondays?

I consider myself very fortunate and blessed and I know you can feel that way too.

In the years, I trained to become a coach and trainer I learned from the best and the most amazing techniques too.

What stuck with me the most was goal setting or well-formed outcomes, as some people call them too.

As I started to apply this in my life I became very creative and ingenious with it, so I could become more efficient and truly leverage myself and my efforts.

So, this is what I came up with.

I started to set myself weekly outcomes/goals, for the whole of the week, those were the things I was going to accomplish, no matter what.

Then, I would chunk those goals down into daily outcomes/goals and ensured that they would be in alignment with the weekly goals and at the end of each day review and adjust as necessary.

The moment I started doing this I noticed how my results were improving and I was feeling good about myself and the results I was getting.

So, here is what I learned from this:

The main reason people dislike Mondays or going back to work is because they are lacking in strategies and planning.

People are failing to plan and planning to fail, which then take away their power and the way feel about themselves.

The opposite too is true when you plan your work and you work your plan you are empowering yourself and giving yourself the permission to succeed and achieve your goals.

If you’ve liked this post why not share it?

Till next time,


10 easy to follow steps to have a great week!

I know not many people love that Monday feeling as much as I do, and what this means is that starting the week can be a challenge and a tad tiring for some.

Here are 10 easy to follow steps to have a great week:

  1. Allow yourself plenty of rest the night before, this normally mean getting up earlier on the Sunday, so you are tired early enough to ensure you have 6-8 hours sleep.
  2. Have happy and positive thoughts about Monday and your week. If you go to bed late thinking you will be tired the next morning, guest what? You will!
  3. Drink plenty of water throughout the day, sometimes dehydration can cause us to feel tired, stressed and demotivated, prevent this by having water by your side at all times.
  4. Have healthy meals and snacks to promote your body to work on full cylinders. 
  5. Surround yourself with positive people; positivity, just like negativity is contagious, choose your company carefully.
  6. Allow yourself to take breaks, taking breaks in between jobs or tasks is not only healthy for the body but for the mind too, it allows the mind to recover and perform better over long periods of time.
  7. Listen to something or someone inspiring, this too will motivate you during the week.
  8. Read a book on personal development, a few pages a day is a great way of feeding the mind with positive and inspiring information. 
  9. Schedule everything in your diary, to ensure it gets done. 
  10. Write down the 3 most important things to achieve each day. 

By following these steps (some would call them habits), you are setting the scene to have not only a great but fantastic week too!

Happy week,

Jorge 😎✌❤

3 Habits Confident People Have 

I remember growing up and having very little confidence and wishing I could be like so and so and one day pursue my dreams.

Though, not having much confidence was always a ghost I kept coming across, something I had to tackle head on.

So, here are 3 habits I found really helpful to becoming more confident.

3 habits confident people have:

  1. Confident people do not take themselves too seriously. By taking oneself too seriously we risk becoming disappointed and disenchanted with ourselves at some point when we make mistakes. Taking life and oneself too seriously can take away some our confidence and self-belief. 
  2. Confident people know that there is no failure only feedback. It is common for us to make mistakes, it is part and parcel of being human, at the same time something key to remember here is that there is no failure or bad experiences, simply feedback and experiences. And, 
  3. Confident people do not see themselves as victims. I remember in my journey to becoming more confident reading an article where it said that when you are a victim you are at the effect of someone! That was enough for me to stop feeling sorry for myself and get my act together towards becoming more confident. 

Perhaps, you are responsible lacking in confidence or self-esteem and by following and repeating these three habits you can start your own journey towards a more confident you.

Lastly, always bear in mind:

The best is yet to come!

Till next time,


The Importance Of KISSing

The Importance Of KISSing


I got your attention, right?

Sadly I am not going to talk to you about kissing!

What I want to talk to you about is the importance of Keeping It Simple Stupid…

Why is it important to keep things simple and somehow basic?

Because the more complex and complicated the execution of anything, and I mean any project, job or task, the more likely it is to end up as an act of procrastination, or an end product/result you aren’t 100% satisfied with.

What do you know when your project/task is simple enough?

It is said that real genius is when you can explain anything to a 5 year old and they get it.

Also, you know your project is simple enough when you see yourself achieving it, it doesn’t overwhelm you and it makes you want to get on with it by taking immediate action.

A word of advice here is, do NOT let the idea that just because it is simple fool you, anything you want to get and achieve in your life requires immediate action, there is no time like the now.

If you are lacking confidence in yourself or an overall lack of direction as to how to tackle your goals, help is always available, shop around, ask others and find someone who can help you grow in confidence and become successful. Click here to visit my website.

The secret to any success is to have a simple and easy to follow system that will get you where you want to be.

Complex tasks and projects lead to disappointment and overwhelm.

Simple and easily structured tasks and projects lead to self-belief and certainty in oneself.

Remember, if you have a project you want to tackle and achieve successfully, simply give it a good KISS by keeping it simple stupid.

Till next time,



Things always move fast around here…

Watching a movie recently  (Hidden Figures) there was a quote that really stuck with me that was:

“Things always move fast around here.”

It hit home as it was a reminder of two things:

  1. That time is the only resource we can not ever get back, once it is gone, that’s it! And it is a great reminder that there is no point in dwelling in the past, doing so robs us from our now and future. And
  2. It stress the importance of acting straight away, that the here is no time like the now the now to take action because once that time is gone, well it’s gone.

How are you spending your time?

Are you time smart?

Till next time,


How do you know you are making the wrong decisions? 

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why do you keep making the same mistakes and taking the wrong decisions time and time again? 

And where is the evidence that you are making the wrong decisions. 

It is quite simple, the evidence of those decisions are the results we get, or lack thereof. 

We fail to plan and therefore plan to fail and at the same time we get the results we don’t want.

Another common thing we tend to do (and this happened to me very recently, like Monday!), is that when we make decisions they are ill – formed and lacking in energy.

What do I mean by ill – formed decisions? 

They are fear or stress based. We are not consciously engaging with the task at hand and the results show it.

The same apply to our energy levels, overtime we have learned to grow out of touch with our energy levels and we don’t know when to take a break and restore our energy levels.

By doing this, we are allowing our brain and energy levels time to restore and be and be to function better without being depleted due to overuse and abuse.

If you want to make the right decisions and avoid mistakes, ensure you plan what you are intending to do and reenergise yourself allowing you to bring focus and clarity to your work.

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post. Why not share it?

Till next time, 


5 Reiki Lessons I Apply In My Life Daily 

5 Reiki Lessons I Apply In My Life Daily 

If you aren’t familiar with Reiki, it is a Japanese healing art that has been around for the last 100 years or so, and it means Universal Energy.

One of the biggest lessons I have learned in my life so far is that whatever you do, whatever line of business you are in, the best way to fully embrace it is by making it part of your lifestyle (and who you are) AND turn into habits too.

Some examples are:

  • Yoga, it is much more than a group of asanas, Yoga is considered a lifestyle,
  • Fitness, if you are an athlete or PT it is very likely that you are constantly looking after your wellbeing, including what you eat and exercise on a regular basis,
  • Dentist, you wouldn’t run a successful dental practice with rotten teeth and bad breath,
  • Accountants, they tend to keep their accounts in really good conditions, as it is part of their routine, etc.

Here are the 5 Reiki lessons I apply in my life daily:

  • Just for today I will let go of anger,
  • Just for today I will let go of worry,
  • Today I will count my many blessings,
  • Today I will do my work honestly,
  • Today I will be kind to every living creature.

I have found this such an empowering way to live my life daily, just one day at the time.

If you are Reiki trained you might be saying: but that’s part of the Reiki teachings… Which is 100% true, though, it doesn’t mean it is easy to do, just because it is there to be taught, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it is to be followed.

However, I know that by following these principles, as they are also know, I am in for a great day.

If something goes wrong, I use it as my mantra: just for today I will let go of anger AND I will let go of worry.

Rather than focusing on how things are working the way I’d like them to, I count my many blessings, I can see, I can hear, I speak, I can fell, I can smell and taste, I have roof over my head; AND by constantly focusing on my many blessings I know I am truly blessed to have what I have… they tend to outweigh what I don’t have.

Every day, I set out with the intention to do my work right and at the same time to do the right thing, in terms of my work, if a client comes to see me wanting something that is out of my expertise I will send them to someone who can help them rather than “keeping them all for myself”, I earn my living with integrity and I make it a huge part of my way of being and working.

Lastly, I wake up wishing the best to every human being and animal on the planet, I am ever so grateful for the people and things around me, to the point that in my book Growing Confident (and in my forthcoming book 23 Ways to Raise Your Energy Levels) in the acknowledgements session I thanked the plants and animals of the world because without them we would NOT be here, the plants keep us alive and the animals pollinise them so they continue to keep us alive.

Also, whether we want to admit it, we are all connected by wishing every human being the best we are wishing ourselves the best too.

By practising these simple principles, I have learned to love on people in ways I didn’t even know were possible, I have learned to love myself because I see and recognise the best in others and all of that is possible because I do it one day at the time.

Let me know which one of these principles is your favourite.

Till next time,

Jorge 😚✌

How to reboot your mindset?

We live in an era where pretty much everything is computerised and we talk in terms of softwares, hardwares, apps, etc. 
So, I thought I’d talk about the most important computer we will ever use and have, our mind!

I want to apologise in advance as I am not very tekky so I might the wrong terms. 

The main computer we were assigned at birth has been filled with downloads from all sources:

  • Parents,
  • Siblings,
  • Relatives,
  • Friends,
  • Neighbours,
  • School,
  • Teachers,
  • Culture,
  • Society,
  • Social media, etc.

Softwares and apps are constantly being downloaded, though, rarely they are updated, upgraded or discarded all together.

What are the side effects of operating using old programmes  (aka limiting beliefs)?

Among the many negative side effects here are some of the most common:

  1. Slow running of applications  (performance and overall speed),
  2. Prone to viruses and unwanted data,
  3. Carrying useless information,
  4. Frustration for the user, and
  5. A false sense of working properly. 

How can we optimise the running of our computer?

New softwares and apps are of importance, as well as a good antivirus.

These are best known as personal development, self-help and growth mindset.

Books, audios, seminars and 121 coaching are the necessary tools that will help our computer work and perform faster.

A constant and consistent upgrade and cleaning is of essence too.

We want to ensure we give our computer a time to recover too, so it can cool down, update apps and perform better all in all.

How good is your mind (computer) performing?

Does it need to be upgraded and updated?

Till next time,

Jorge 😚


I came across this poem recently and I thought I’d share it with you.


Jorge 😎

Courage to stand out. 

Courage to be me. 

This courage I wish I had so drastically! 

Courage to laugh. 

The feeling to be free. 

Oh I wish I wish I had this courage inside of me. 

Courage to love. 

Courage to trust. 

To have this courage would be a plus. 

Courage to accept I have courage. 

This is proven to be; 

The hardest courage their could be.

by Christina E. Brown

How do you know if you are at the effect of things?

If you aren’t familiar with cause and effect this is how it goes.

When you are at cause in your life, you are calling the shots, making your own decisions, in control of your life and actions AND you get to create your life the way you want to.

On the other hand, when you are at the effect of something or someone,  you are giving power to something or someone, you are their ‘bitch’ (sorry, couldn’t resist!), you are ‘affected’ by everyone and everything AND you are seen or acting as a ‘victim’.

How do you know if you are at the effect of things in your life?

Here is a short list of things that would tell you you are at the effect of things :

  1. You are constantly complaining about things and people, 
  2. You feel ‘unlucky’,
  3. You wait for things to happen to you, 
  4. You are reactive,
  5. You feel hard done by,
  6. You always feel left out,
  7. You have negative and unhelpful thoughts,
  8. You hate your environment,
  9. You are always unhappy, and
  10. You haven’t achieved your goals.

How do you stop this?

The best and easiest way to stop being at the effect of everything and start being at cause in your life.

By flipping this ‘metaphorical’ coin you start to create the life of your dreams, chasing after your goals and being a real winner in your life.

What are the signs of being at cause in your life?

  1. You are happy in yourself, 
  2. You are optimistic and courageous,
  3. You use positive language, 
  4. You attract more people into your life, 
  5. You set empowering and realistic goals, 
  6. You do what you love,
  7. People come to you for advice, guidance and support, 
  8. You experience a real sense of wellbeing, 
  9. You more energised, and
  10. You experience a real sense of belonging. 

The list shown above is just but a summary of what is possible when we are at cause in our lives.

Being at cause is a state of being and knowing our worth.

Are you ready to be at cause in your life? 

Let’s hear what you got to say.

Till next time,

Jorge :)💋❤

3 easy steps to have a fantastic weekend!

Who doesn’t like having an amazing weekend?

The average person (according to my observations!) spends most of their weekend time, which I believe is precious to all of us, running around and recovering from the week gone.

So, how can we ensure we make the most of it, instead?

Those close to me constantly congratulate me for my levels of efficiency and being able to get everything done AND at the same time ensure I keep a balanced life.

How do I do it?

I use these 3 simple steps to ensure all my weekends are fantastic:

  1. I ALWAYS plan to do something fun. It doesn’t matter how long or challenging my week has been I will schedule something that will bring joy and laughter to me at the weekends. It could be going to the movies, going shopping or a nice meal out. I reward myself for the week gone.
  2. I set outcomes or goals for my weekends. This could be relationship or personal or even spiritual. I always ensure that there is something to be achieved at the weekend, something to look forward to. It inspires me to get more done at the weekends. Remember: time is a very precious resource, so why not use it wisely even at the weekends. And,
  3. I set aside some ‘me’ time. Selfish right? No, it isn’t, it is normal and healthy to want to have some you time, to do whatever you want or just to do nothing or reflect on the week one.

I have been doing this for years and I make the most of my weekends and I start my weeks empowered and energised. 

Give them a go this weekend and let me know how you get on.

Till next time,

Jorge 😘❤💋💥

Do I matter?

Good question right? 

Do I matter? Do you matter? Do we matter?

For years this question troubled and intrigued…

Do I matter? 

What I do matters?

Honestly I struggled to answer it because I couldn’t see any evidence of it (or that I thought!).

I started to notice and realise that what I did matter, though I would think people were being polite and kind to me.

It wasn’t til November last year when I truly learned that what I do matters!

I visited Atlanta, Georgia for a personal development training, I didn’t see the big deal in attending, I did it because u could and I was interested in it.

So, I got there. The truth is people knew about me going to visit and they forgot. 

The second I arrived, they were looking at me wondering who I was.

I introduced myself as Jorge from England and originally from Panama. Told them about my journey and who I was and did. 

The day was great. We learned so much and people were so kind and beautiful with me.

At the end, a lady stood up and thanked me for my bravery and honouring them with my presence this is what she said:

Thank you for coming and showing us how small we are playing.

You have travelled thousands of miles to invest on yourself and showing is what is possible. 

We make excuses about time and money and you have proven that those are just stories we make up to stop ourselves. 

I was speechless. I couldn’t believe what an impact I had on that community. 

However, it showed that everything matters, it doesn’t matter how small an action is it will ALWAYS matter because people are watching and being impacted by it. 

Do I matter? 

Does what I do matter?

Absolutely, 100%.

Guess what?

It also applies to you. 

You do matter, what you do matter. 

You needn’t hear from others to know that what you do matters, just know it that what you do matter. Period. 

You are important therefore what you do matters. 

What are you doing?

Recently watching a movie (Hidden Figures), I came across the most incredible quote in the form of a question  (2 actually):

What are you doing?

Taking a break?

This was said when a character was supposed to take an immediate action and instead was sat looking at everyone as if waiting for someone to either tell her what to do or do it for her…

At that moment her friend look at her and said:

What are you doing? Taking a break?

I saw the relevancy to those questions into my life and the lives of many people.

What are we doing? Taking a break?

There are dreams to be achieved. There are projects to get started and sometimes we find ourselves staring into space waiting for something or someone to appear and give us orders.

Some people are fortunate, “lucky” they have someone or people to ask that question: What are you doing?

Is there something that needs doing?

Is the project going to complete itself? 

Or, are you just taking a break hoping things will do themselves?

These breaks or lack of action are our worst enemies because it is here when we tend to become complacent and start to procrastinate neglecting our future and what is important to us.

Remember the 4 questions to ponder on from yesterday?

Why not add what are you doing? Too? 

Till next time,


4 Questions To Ponder On…

Last Sunday and Monday I was driving from my city, Southampton to Weybridge and Weybridge to Eastbourne and finally Eastbourne to Southampton. 

It may sound like a lot of driving but it wasn’t.  

Since being self-employed I have become very time savvy and conscious, I have learned that time is the only resource we will never ever get back.

So, whenever I am driving, walking, moving, doing chores or at the gym I am either reading or listening to something that will help me be better at what I do and as a person. 

I was listening to Jim Rohn’s (he is just amazing) Challenge to Succeed. 

These recordings capture his philosophies and incredible wisdom.

Toward the end of 4 cds audios he said I will leave you with 4 questions to ponder on:

  1. Why? He says this is the most powerful questions we can ever ask. Why… children ask it all the time.
  2. Why not? Great question,isn’t it? Why not do it now? Why not now? Why not take action? Why not do something about it? Asking why not is a powerful way to get us into action.
  3. Why not me? As a teenager I used to ask the question why me? I would put and present myself as a victim, whereas this question why not me? Gives us power and the opportunity to get going… if he/she can, why not me? Great application of this question.
  4. Why not now? Is there more to add to this question? Why not now instead of tomorrow? It is really easy to postpone things and invest our time, money and efforts on things that aren’t as important. 

As I was driving back home I felt totally inspired by these questions. 

Often we see the why question as unimportant or unnecessary when in reality it shines new light into the situations we are presented with.

Remember ask yourself the following questions at all times:

  • Why,
  • Why not,
  • Why not me,
  • Why not now.

Don’t let their simplicity fool you. 

Till next time,


What is love?

Today I want to give you a poem, a blessing from me.

Happy Valentine’s.

What is love?

What is love?
But a kiss, a caress,
One I love you,
One I need you.
What is love?
But an expression of who you are,
And extension of your being,
One action,
One thought.

What is love?
But a whisper, a smile,
One memory,
One second of intimacy.
What is love?
But feelings, emotions,
One heartbeat,
One breath taken and returned.

What is love?
But what I feel for you,
One unheard voice,
One unfelt touch.
What is love?
But the universe at your feet,
One world,
One heart.

What is love?
But me and you,
One part of you,
One part of me.
What is love?
But what we feel together,
Your heart,
My heart,
Dancing together at unison,
Making magic possible,
Discovering the impossible,
Exploring what’s possible.
Love is all there is,
Love is all we need,
Love is you,
Love is me!

What is love?
Who cares?
Noone fully gets it,
Noone fully understands it
What is love?
But all there is,
All we need,
All we should ever need.

Jorge Vence

I hope you have enjoyed and please share this love.

Till next time,


What is dangerous?

As I have recently shared in the last few days I have been paying full attention to what is being said on TV, by people, what I read, everything in general.

I was watching a couple of movies at the weekend and in one of these movies one of the characters said the following  (I believe it was in Hidden Figures):

Dangerous is: inaction and indecision…!!!

At that moment I wanted to get my journal out and jot down such incredible quote (I used all the mind techniques to not forget it though!).

Hearing this quote was so relevant to everything I do and life in general.

If we don’t take action we will never get anything done or get what we want in life. 

It is a sad fact that we tend to rely on luck and we forget that the best way to get “lucky” is by taking action, getting s**t done and creating that luck ourselves through the opportunities the hat we come across. 

Also, when we are indecisive and “procrastinate” to make our minds up, we end up wasting time, money and energy AND the outcome we get is the of dissatisfaction and unfulfilment. 

However, if we flip the coin and take a look at what is safe or right we get: action and decisions  (or choices).

When we take action we call the shots and we make things happen, we take full responsibility and control of the situation and ultimately the outcome.

And when we are making decisions, choosing what actions to take we commit to our goals and dreams AND we steer our money, time and energy to what is important and matters to us.

We become resourceful and unstoppable AND we become of inspiration to others.

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post.

Please share with your friends. 

Till next time,

Jorge 😘

What do you want to be the first at?

I have started to pay more attention to what people say and lines (quotes) from movies and influential people. 

It is incredible what can be learned when we start focusing our attention more.

Yesterday I had a great day with my partner, we went shopping, out to the movies, for dinner and finished the night with tenpin bowling.

Although, every part of the day was sensational, my favourite part of the day was the cinema.

We watched Hidden Figures… What a movie, it is a MUST watch. 

Again, I am not spoiling the plot or storyline, just watch it.

One of the characters is in front of a judge for a hearing, as she is applying to attend lessons in an all-white  (and all male) class.

She had done her homework and researched the judge’s details. 

He had been the first to go to university, the first to become a judge, etc., etc. 

So she recited all his achievements, saying: 

You know what it is like to be the first in your family to do accomplish something.

I too want to be the first one in my family to go to university and become an engineer, I want to be the first black (this movie was based on the 60’s during the segregation between whites and blacks).

Wouldn’t you too like to be the first to let a black woman go to an all-white school?

What a bold statement to make:

What would you like to be the first in? Or, what would you like to be the first at?

This movie was about vision and conviction and it got me thinking. 

What do I want to be the first in/at?

I have been the first in my family at some things, to move abroad, to really follow my dreams, to start my own business, to write and publish books, etc. 

Though, I do not want to stagnate and be left behind. What can I be the first in/at next?

What hasn’t been done yet?

Please note it isn’t to appear better or superior but to challenge myself and continue to grow.

What would you like to be the first in?

I would love to hear. 

Till next time,

Jorge 😎💋❤

What is your favourite thing about Earth?

Yesterday I went to the movies with my partner and we watched – The Space Between Us.

This is a beautiful movie, so if you haven’t been to watch it yet, highly recommend it.

I won’t tell you much about the movie, don’t want to spoil it for you…

The main character, Gardner, asks several people this question:

What is your favourite thing about Earth?

What a powerful question, I thought and I kept wondering what is my favourite thing about Earth.

I don’t have a single favourite thing about Earth, though I have many.

These are my favourite things about Earth:

  1. Knowledge and wisdom, we are blessed that for millenia we have been able to capture valuable information about our planet and us as a race and these data will be passed to generations to come.
  2. Fauna and flora, I have always loved nature, we are truly blessed to have the ecosystems we have, the plants and animals and the means to learn from it.
  3. Variety, the older I get and the more I travel I feel humbled and in awe at the variety in our cultures and traditions; it is so beautiful to know that even though we are all humans we still have to much to learn from one another AND we keep enriching each others lives.
  4. Our curiosity, us human beings are so curious and we do whatever it takes to understand what is around us to improve our quality of life.
  5. Our resilience, there is no denying that we are resilient beings and it doesn’t matter what comes our way we come back stronger and more prepared for what is next.
  6. The ability to express our emotions, to me this is one of the mos beautiful things we can do on Earth, tell others what our feelings are.
  7. Life, I love witnessing and experiencing what it is like to be alive and celebrate others lives. It gives me great joy and satisfaction. 

I could go on and on, as it is a great experience to enjoy what we have, we are truly blessed to live in an era where we can be and enjoy life.

It is a true blessing knowing that we can express our thoughts and concerns and joy and share with the world what we love about our communities, societies and our planet as a whole.

I am curious:

What is your favourite thing about Earth?

See you soon,

Jorge 😙

Courage is fear that has said its prayers 

Jim Rohn once said something along the lines of:

“Why try to overthink and come up with something new when others have said and put it so eloquently for us already.”

I couldn’t agree more with that quote especially after hearing the following quote today by Joyce Meyer :

“Courage is fear that has said its prayers and decided to go forward anyway.”

Well, what can I say?

This is so perfectly put that it leaves nothing unsaid…

When we proceed with courage we are essentially acknowledging and making the decision and commitment to go ahead and do it anyway as put by Susan Jeffers:

“Feel the fear and do it anyway.”

Acting with courage besides our dears is the best favour we can do for our future selves, conquering new territories and becoming a better person each day.

Learning something new and overcoming a new challenge daily is the best way to become the person we must in order to accomplish our goals.

I would love to hear any powerful statements or quotes you have heard/read today or in the past and how it has inspired you. 

Till next time,

Jorge 😎💕💋

It is OK to have a bad day!

Yesterday was a significant day for me, in many ways. Sadly, the way I reacted and how I took this event was pretty bad.

Before I continue writing I will not tell you much on this post as it is still raw and I am processing it, so talking about it brings “stuff” to the surface. 

What I will tell you though is I already have a title for my next book 😉. 

So, I had a rubbish day yesterday. 

How rubbish you might be asking yourself?

Vodka kind of rubbish. 

I didn’t want to talk to anyone about what had happened and the only 2 people who knew about this incident I begged to not mention it.

As I was drinking my vodka and coke, I am not crazy to swig it neat (yuck!), I kept saying to myself why am reacting like this? 

You are a coach and a therapist (and a healer), a trainer and an author and you empower people and help them and blah blah blah…

Is alcohol the solution? 

Is pushing people away the solution?

Is blaming other people the right thing to do?

I started to analyse what was going through my mind at that moment  (before the vodka kicked in!).

And this is where I got to…

You are a coach and a therapist (and a healer), a trainer and an author and you empower people and help them AND…
You are human too!

I realised and totally recognised the importance of having a bad day.

I chose to divert my attention from what was happening to something else, yes I know vodka wasn’t the solution  (though there was nothing else I could do around midnight!).

I learned that having a bad day is a great opportunity to take a look at your life and reassess where you are at. 

That there are lessons in every situation and that by taking a break from it you are giving yourself the time to process the situation and take the learnings. 

When you acknowledge that it is ok to have a bad day and accept it for what it is you are at cause in your life, rather than at the effect of the “issue”.

It was so refreshing knowing I don’t have to get it right all the time, it is OK to go through all the emotions known to human kind in a few seconds and even have a cry.

I also learned I was too attached to this outcome and because it didn’t go as I had planned I was upset. 

Note to self: stay unattached and remain committed instead. 

I woke up in a different space (and and NOT hungover!) AND I wanted to talk, I wanted to tell people.

In fact, it was so healing talking to people because I learned people do care when you let them in.

I just needed to acknowledge and declare I was having a bad day and i had to take some time off.

I promise when I am ready I will share with you what happened, and when the book is published I will send you the link too 😉!

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post and realised that even people who help other people to transform their lives have bad days and go for the vodka (sometimes!). 

We are like everyone else and stuff get to us too.

So remember it is ok to have a bad day. 

Till next time,

Jorge 😘❤💋

100 Years Of Solitude

100 Years Of Solitude

For as long as I can remember I have enjoyed and totally loved reading, at first it started like a way to cope with life and avoid loneliness, it then became a passion that has helped me a great deal.

I started reading fiction or non-fiction, literature and prose; I always loved putting myself in the author’s shoes and decipher what he wanted to put across to the reader, I would get lost in those pages for hours and hours (and still do).

Later in life I switched to personal development and business, and success and every now and then I lose myself (again) in a nice fictional book.

One of the books that had a huge impact in my life was 100 years of solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez aka Gabo.


Before I tell you why I want to give you a bit of background.

My family (most of them, anyway) are of humble means, in fact my generation was the first generation to have had the privilege to have an education, our parents and grandparents didn’t, in fact my great grandmother (who is still alive) didn’t have any education whatsoever.

It is fair to say that education and personal growth weren’t the main priority in their lives, it was all about “survival”, getting a job (didn’t matter what it was!), having a roof over their head (and their children!) and paying the bills (and maybe have the luxury to do some nice things!); I know some of you would even say that that is the case with many people nowadays, and you’d be right!

So, that is the background of 3 generations in my family (we are 5 generations living side by side).

Oh, and before I forget I read this book in 2005 when I was already living in England.

The reason I loved this book is because it beautifully described many (if not most) people’s reality in Latin America.

What is that?

Doing the same things their parents have always done, repeating the same mistakes; in fact, there would be 3 (or more) generations living under the same roof!

In this book Gabriel talks about an imaginary community (Macondo), based on what he knew and had seen in Colombia growing up.

As I was reading the pages of this book it felt as if I was reading my family’s biography and friends families, it felt real and I had seen it with my own eyes.

The family in the book perpetuating that vicious circle and they weren’t even aware of it, it all seemed “normal”.

It was OK to live with your parents and their parents, and getting married and bringing your partner to live in your house and bringing a child to the world and keeping it in the same environment, not broadening its horizons.

I will not spoil the book giving you too much information, it simply is a must read.

So, what I learned from reading this book was that I was brave and courageous when I chose to sever my connection from that vicious circle, I wanted to see the world, I wanted to be “different” and I wanted to do things that no one has ever done in my family.

At first it wasn’t easy because I felt guilty, and now when I look back I know it was one of the best decisions I have ever made because I get to do things I love and I am starting something new.

I am making my own mistakes and learning from them, I am travelling and seeing the world, I am doing things I want to do and not things I am “expected” to do, I call the shots and I live a life powerfully and I love it.

You want to know something?

Many (if not most) of my family are still living in the same vicious circle, that’s what they have always known and otherwise is “odd” and “strange” and totally “alien” to them.

The connections and bonds we have to those lifestyles can be too strong to break sometimes and it may take many generations to break away from them.

Two things come to mind:

  1. Einstein’s definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results. And

  2. Some people believe that it takes up to seven generations to break away from a vicious circle.

Was I the “odd” one out? Was my birth the chosen one from a 7th generation and the others weren’t? who knows?

Though, I wanted to share with you about that book and how it almost felt like I was reading my family’s biography.

If you haven’t read this book, I highly recommend you do, you might even discover something from your family in there too.

Till next time,



​I found this beautiful poem by Ms Moem and I thought it would be a great idea to share it.

Here you have it, Confidence. 


Confidence isn’t something

only other people possess,

Though it’s a quiet self-assurance that

what they do will be a success.

You can fake it ‘til you make it.

Never given,

You need to take it

and create the conditions

where fear of failure

matters less.

Till next time,


Just keep going bravely and remain confident 

Sometimes I feel I run of ideas and this can lead to me struggling to put sentences together.

Though, today I was reminded of something beautiful and almost magical. 

I noticed how “easy” it can be to find inspiration when you allow it, when you let things unravel around you. 

As I have mentioned before I prefer to blog daily, rather than in “bulk”, as I like to capture my day and what is happening around me.

So, today I was reading a book with daily thoughts and poetry and I came across this phrase:

Just keep going bravely and remain confident.

How apt it is and it applies to all of us.

Whatever we want in life, all we have to do is to keep going bravely and with courage for this is the fuel that will propel us in the direction of our goal.

No matter how many times “things happen” to us, if we keep in mind our end goal, we can make it happen, this will only happen when we keep going. 

Also, it is a great reminder to stay and remain confident. 

When we face a challenge, rather than running away or stopping, if we stay confident in our abilities and know that it will pass, because let’s face it, it always does.

If we take the learnings and feedback and sharpen our skills, use our resources and become more resourceful, this will invariably give us the confidence to keep going.

And the more we do this, the more resilient we become and ultimately we become unstoppable. 

Wasn’t this a great reminder today?

Just keep going bravely and remain confident!
I found it very apt and helpful, it is great to be reminded that to be successful and achieve our goals we have to bear in mind these two things:

  1. Keep going, and
  2. Remain confident. 

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post and please share it and comment. 

Till next time,


Keeping your Energy levels up 

How on earth can we keep our Energy levels up?
I used to wonder how is it possible that some people seem to ALWAYS have all the Energy to get “stuff” done.

I used to think it was down to coffee, or too much sugar or later energy drinks.

So, I wondered for years what their secret was.

Fast forward a few years later, I finally got it.

To have tons of Energy all we have to do is to move…

That simple!

We want to wake up quicker? The answer is to get out of bed and start moving.

If what we want is to have more Energy because we have long days, dancing and jumping for a couple of minutes is a we need to produce more Energy so we can get things done.

If in doubt, give it a go.

Move, move and keep moving so you bring your Energy levels up and you what matters to you done and in time.


Jorge 😘❤

, if you know of anyone who needs more Energy in their lives just share this blog post.

Your potential is unlimited 

When we are children we know we can be and do anything. 

Then, things happen and we start to doubt ourselves, beliefs are formed and suddenly we made decisions about things, ourselves and the world.

We grow into people full of limiting beliefs and uncertain about it all.

  • We don’t think we are good enough.
  • We feel we don’t have what it takes to do X, Y or Z. 
  • We struggle to “fit in” and even accept ourselves. 

And this list could go on and on and on.

Though, I am here to remind you that your potential is unlimited. 

You  (we) have all it takes to create the life you want, you have all the resources you need to bring magic into your life.

Just start believing and start getting the results. 

It was Napoleon Hill who put it best;

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.

Till next time,


Can anyone really be 100% confident?

​I used to ask myself this question ALL the time, I mean none stop:

Can anyone really be 100% confident?

In ALL areas of their lives?

At ALL times?

I’d be scratching my head and almost lost sleep over it. 

I knew nothing else, lack of confidence and low self-esteem  is all I knew.

So, I just wondered and never asked anyone. 

I carried on with my life and met wonderful people AND I got to work on my personal development, and towards the life I wanted. 

Next thing I was confident and I totally forgot about that question I once asked myself time and time again.

Until people started asking the same question to me… They were even more confident than I was by asking that question.

So, I got thinking and observing.

And here are my findings:

  1. People are always facing challenges, therefore their confidence is affected by it and at the same time just because they don’t show it, it doesn’t mean it isn’t there.
  2. People are confident in some areas of their lives and not confident in others. 
  3. Some people face their “challenges” head on and feel the fear and do it anyway, so they develop that muscle and next time when they face similar situations they know what to do. And,
  4. Growing in confidence is an ongoing journey, it really never ends.

Just because you don’t feel or see yourself as a confident person it doesn’t mean you aren’t in some areas.

I have met really shy people who aren’t “as confident as” me, though in front of others they do come across as confident, brave, courageous and bold.

What you see in yourself isn’t what others see in you. 

Typical example would be parents with “no” confidence, to their children they are heroes and they can do anything. 

To many of us some friends, bosses or teachers come across as confident, though behind closed doors don’t know their “reality”.

So, to answer that question, the answer is a big fat and emphatic NO.

NOONE is really confident at all times. 

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post. 

Liked it? Why not share with your friends.

Till next time,


How NOT to worry!

We have grown to become too “familiar” with worry and stress.

Although, they both deserve the same level of attention, today I want to talk about worry.

When I was 16/17 I was very fortunate to meet Jorge, my namesake, we meet in our group therapy and he took at shine to me. 

In those days I didn’t feel worthy of having a Lawyer as a friend, in fact, I didn’t feel I deserved any friends.

Anyway, so Jorge would chat to me after our therapies and often would give me a lift.

Jorge was 12 years older than me (still is, BTW), and he was very wise for his years.

He knew I had attempted suicide so he felt compelled to support me and be my guide, for he had had a tough period too when he was a teenager and in his early 20’s.

I wish I could lie but in those days I was a tad negative, who am I kidding? I was very negative, I didn’t know much about appreciation or gratitude!!!

However, Jorge would never criticise or judge my views.

So, one day I was being the “typical” teenager, complaining and whinging about everything!

So, Jorge said to me:

Jorge why are you constantly preoccupied?

Did you know that preoccupied really means to occupy yourself before its time?

Everytime you preoccupy you are wasting your time and energy AND you are busying yourself unnecessarily and before its due. 

Those words were what I needed to hear. 

From that moment on I preoccupied less and let worry out of my life.

So, how NOT to worry?

Stop preoccupying yourself and rather than busying your mind  (with things that may not even happen) and start enjoying what you have in your life.

Worrying or preoccupying is tiring and consuming, it leads nowhere and it can cost you EVERYTHING. 

It is almost like living into a negative future that you are putting there. 

It’s like using the Law of Attraction to your disadvantage and drawing negative things into your life. 

What about thinking of great and empowering things and attract a future you love.

It is possible, I learned to do it and so can you. 

Till next time,


3 Tips To Help You Feel More Confident – Infographic Download

3 Tips To Help You Feel More Confident – Infographic Download


I know how surreal it is to believe that one day you can stop lacking in confidence.

I have been there and if anyone EVER told me that one day I would be confident and enjoy its rewards I would have laughed and continued feeling the way used to feel.

Feeling lonely, feeling sad, feeling empty, I, too, was there. In fact, I never thought I’d stop having that empty feeling in my heart.

Wherever you are, just know there is, ALWAYS, hope and a way out.

Though, I have been there and done, I know how “challenging” it is to see other ways and even believe that that is even possible.

So, today, I want to share 3 tips that will help you to feel more confident.

Are you ready?

3 tips to help you feel more confident:

  1. Know that it will soon be over: when you know that whatever is going in your life will only be there for a short while and that great things will be coming your way.

As I said I have been there and I know what it is like to feel like you will never ever be confident. Though, when is started feeling that it would soon be over, it did and 9 months after (after committing suicide and failing!), I someone who loved me for me and 2 years after meeting him I was living in a different country, my whole transformed!!!

  1. Know that you are stronger than you think: this was a pivotal moment in me gaining confidence because I knew there was a strength in me that I had yet to tap into and that drove to want to experience it and have it, I learned valuable lessons about myself and how I was in control of my thoughts and therefore my life.
  1. Know that other people are going through the same as you: one day I had the thought, what if other people feel the same way? What if they even feel worse than me? And guess what? I started to notice what was happening around me, in other peoples’ lives. So, I made the choice to help them and empower them and that helped me a great deal, simply knowing I was helping another person.

I invite you put into practice these 3 simples tips and start feeling the benefits right away, growing in confidence isn’t “difficult”, it isn’t brain surgery; it requires belief and action.

Believe that you can be confident and take the actions required to be that confident person.

If you want to read more about confidence by all means go onto www.dragonrising.com and order a copy of my book Growing Confident, where I share my journey to become a confident man what I did.

Also, share your comments in the comments box when you start seeing the results in your life.

With all my love,




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