Where do they come from?
Recently, I witnessed something that provoked this question, where do our core values come from?
I was at a local coffee shop (being healthy I promise, and no it is not a pink elephant), and I saw the following:
An older brother (teenager), was in this shop with his two younger brothers, he asked for their food to go (to not pay the tax), and then he sat in to eat with this brothers.
Here is the thing I found the most fascinating, his younger brother said: but you said we’d eat it on the go, what about paying the extra money to sit in.
I could not believe my ears. I felt so proud of that little boy, acting with such integrity at such young age.
Although, I understand that our values are the total sum of all the experiences we’ve had, that we filter this information accordingly, and that we are programmed (by those around us BTW) between the ages of 0-6.
I totally get that, seriously.
But, then this raised this question in my head (dangerous place to be!).
Do we choose to behave unethically when at heart we know what is right and what isn’t?
I will give you some examples.
Stealing. We know it is wrong. Though, people choose to do it. There is nothing wrong with asking for something or help.
Being unpunctual. We know it can have some consequences. Though, people are late (I refer to those who do it ALL the time). Why can’t they plan better? We have tons of resources available nowadays.
There are other scenarios you can imagine, where the solution is pretty obvious; yet we choose not to do it.
What drives this I do not know.
Though, I still believe at heart, that people make excuses to avoid taking control of their actions, it then becomes a vicious circle of which they can’t get out of.
Then, that cycle strengthens making it even more challenging to break it.
So, what can we do as a society when we notice someone is acting against our values?
How can we educate these “offenders” so there is harmony all around us.
I invite you take a look around you and see what you can notice; watching people making decisions is fascinating and mesmerising at the same time.
I hope you have enjoyed this read.
Please, leave a comment, let me know your thoughts, I welcome them.
From my heart to yours,