We love to talk and have a conversation with everyone around us, these connect us and can be healing too, for all those involved.
Though, in my personal experience and that of my clients, family and friends we just talk about the superficial stuff and take everything else for granted OR we think others won’t care.
I used to withhold and be shallow and superficial in my conversations, they didn’t take me far and almost cost me my life.
I felt alone, lonely, unwanted and a burden to my family and society, but everyone thought I was fine and just another moody teenager.
The day after my suicide attempt that withholding stopped and I opened up, I spoke to someone about my life and how I felt.
That conversation without a shadow of a doubt saved my life, I learned people cared and they’d do whatever they can to help… all that is needed is for us to open up.
Why am I going on about this?
This year I have made myself the commitment to be there for everyone I know and to make new friends.
Today a friend phoned me and asked me round so I went and we had such a great conversation that lasted for hours.
What was great about this conversation was the generosity and honesty of every word spoken, we just had a real and open conversation.
We didn’t pretend to be anyone else but ourselves, we didn’t have to mind our every word and openly would disagree with each other without arguing about it.
That honesty and openness opened a gate of compliments and kindness and love that you don’t see every day.
Here is what we fail to do in our conversations, we are (or can be) very stingy and inauthentic… these create blockages and barriers that stop the real communication and there is almost no real content to it all.
It was a great reminder of the magic that takes place when we openly, honestly and humanly talk to another person AND the connection it strengthens, and the feeling afterwards is so rewarding.
Talking about ourselves can be scary and awkward at first but over time it gets easier to openly talk about what is worrying us and our concerns, and problems.
I invite you to have more open and honest conversations with your loved ones, and please let me know how these enrich your lives. Give it a go.
Till next time, with all my love,