What Is A Confidence Coach?

What Is A Confidence Coach?

Hi there,


I trust you are well and that you have been enjoying my blog posts. I must confess at the end of 2017 I made the commitment that I would right more often in 2018 and I am proud that I have been fulfilling that commitment so far.


Today I wanted to take the time to answer a question I get asked all the time:

What is a confidence coach?

A confidence coach is a life coach who has chosen to work with clients who have low self-confidence/self-esteem and together they work on empowering techniques to guide the client towards their confidence selves and a confident and compelling future.

There are two types of confidence coaches

  1. Coaches who found themselves almost by “accident” working with clients who have low self-confidence and over time the continue to work with these clients as they have enough experience and knowledge and they have a tried and tested set of techniques that help their clients, and
  2. Coaches who had low to almost no self-confidence; they know what it is like to have low self-esteem, so they are able to empathise with their clients because they were there themselves, and they can bring tools and skills they used from their personal experience, as well as the ones from their professional repertoire.

In my case I am the second type of coach, most of my childhood and teenage years I always felt there was something “off” with me, little did I know it was the fact I had no self-confidence/self-esteem, and this led me a suicide attempt at the age of 16 after I was outted to my mother by a priest.

The day after my suicide attempt after feeling more a failure I made the decision to speak up and talk to someone about my attempt the night before, it was at this moment I reconnected with humanity and I saw hope for the first time in my life.

So, at the age of 16 I realised I had been given a second chance and I was not going to let it go, hence I have been helping people most of my life, so they too enjoy a life with confidence and all the great things that come with it.


Like in life coaching a confidence coach will work with you towards your goals, in this case to have more confidence and together you will create a plan of action that is unique to you and you will tweak it as and when you need to.

The feedback and progress you make will determine the duration of the sessions, in average most people will take 5 to 10 sessions, sometimes more, it all depends on how you feel in yourself, the coach’s personal preferences and you budget sometimes.

Remember anything worth having requires you to put some effort and hard work to make it happen.

In summary

A confidence coach specialises in working with client who have low self-confidence.

There are two types of confidence coaches, 1) “accidental” ones who found themselves in the niche, and 2) coaches who had no confidence and overcame it, so they know too well what it is like to have low self-confidence.

It takes in average 5-10 sessions to get a level of competence where you feel condiment enough and comfortable saying so.

Thanks again for reading, if you’d like to work with a confidence coach, why not book for a free-20 minutes consultation with me?

Til next time, with all my love,



3 Lessons Learned In 2018 So Far

3 Lessons Learned In 2018 So Far


Years come and go, I still remember years in the 80’s, 90’s and 00’s when I didn’t have the awareness I now possess, and I simply got through the years, and decades without learning a single thing and stagnating.

Thankfully things changed when I started in personal development AND educating myself about life in general.

Now, I get from the day rather than through the day AND whatever good or bad comes my way I learn from it and I become a better and stronger person, increasing my resilience and self-belief.

What have I learned from 2018 in less than 3 weeks?

For some of readers this may sound obvious, for others this may be a new insight, and a breakthrough, remember one solution doesn’t always work for everyone else.

3 lessons learned in 2018 so far

  1. Time isn’t what it seems, time become more flexible when we learn to apply it and work with it. Leverage is the key to getting things done, it isn’t the person with the most hours or more minutes that gets the job done, it is the person with the most leverage that succeeds AND gets their tasks finished. I learned this through sheer planning and scheduling and learning where to invest my time and when to say no, the result? It is having more time to do what I want to do and spending the time with my loved ones.
  2. Discipline is the blood and sweat of success, I have heard this, so many times and I thought I was disciplined but I was not maxing out on my potential, there was more room for improvement, there was another level I wasn’t getting to. So far, I have put strategies in place to write daily, to exercise daily, to something I love daily, to eat my meals at the right time, to eat healthily AND to spend my time where it matters the most and where I am going to see best results. I guess it could be said this was my new year’s resolution and I have put into practice what I know, AND it is paying off. I am proud to say that I have achieved more in 3 weeks than I did previously in 3 months!!!
  3. A compassionate approach to life, as a vegan I often read and listened about compassion to the animals, the environment and other humans. So, this word has been stuck in my head and I have been toying with the idea of being more compassionate and loving and caring and present to other humans and myself. One other thing I love about the word compassion is that if we break apart into its two components we have com = with, and passion, with passion; I have started to live my life more passionately and lovingly, caring for things and people that need caring, I have learned to not neglect myself, I am taking better care of myself and it is paying off as I am more effective with everything I do.

In the last 3 weeks I have been making sure that I get from the day as much as I possibly can, not only because I am investing in my life but also because I am curious to know what areas need to be improved, where am I really good at? What areas are my weakest? Etc.

As I have mentioned before there are two types of people:

  • The one who get through the day, getting nothing from it, they are just relieved the day is over, and
  • The ones who get from the day, getting wisdom and lessons from it and enriching the quality of their lives by paying attention to the things that unfold in front of them.

In Summary

You can either get from the day or through the day, if you choose to get from the day, like me, why not keep a journal and write your lessons down and share them with the world?

Thank you for reading.

With all my love,





How To Be You!

How To Be You!

I have to admit this it my favourite title for a blog yet!

How to be you?

My answer would be very simple and to the point:

The best way to be YOU is not to be like OR act like anyone else!

It is at this point that things get a bit “tricky” and people get confused, often I hear things like:

• I don’t have a personality,
• I don’t know how to be “me”,
• I don’t know who I want to be,
• I don’t have a role model,
• I don’t look like such and such, etc.

The list of reasons or excuses to be some else outweigh the reasons to be oneself.

So, how can you be you?

(I got to admit this is a great question, too! – I think I will be using it a lot from now on!)

The answer from everyone would be unique and personal to each person, so here is MY answer, this when I learn how I could be me.

The first thing I did was to make a list of the things I wasn’t: I wasn’t an athlete nor into sports, I wasn’t a singer (seriously, my singing is deafening!), I wasn’t an answer (how can someone have 2 left feet, it is a mystery!), I wasn’t blond, I wasn’t tall, I wasn’t short, I wasn’t a genius, I wasn’t wealthy.

This gave an idea (by elimination) of what my personality/identity was like.

Then, I made another list of the things I didn’t want to be: I didn’t want to be lazy, I didn’t want to be obese, I didn’t want to be unhealthy, I didn’t want to be unfit, I didn’t want to be “just another person in the crowd”, I didn’t want to be a victim, I didn’t want to be a bad person.

Again, this list gave me an idea of what I might want to be as a person, which direction to take in order to be the person I didn’t know how to be.

I asked myself: what excites you; I loved cooking (still do and I became a chef), I loved learning (my self-education is the best gift I have given myself by far!), I loved teaching and simplifying things for others (I have become a trainer to share my passion with others), I loved fiction and poetry (I have published my poems and recited them in public, written non-fiction and just started writing my first fiction book!), I loved crystals and gems (I am mineral collector and crystal healer), I loved the mind (I am now a therapist and coach), I loved talking to people (I help people through my work as a coach), I loved helping people (I do that through ALL of my work!).

ALL of the things that excited me when I started my personal development journey are very much part of what I do in my work, they excited me and I found a way to align my joy and excitement with my personality and career.

Lastly, I asked myself: what is the one thing you would like to accomplish in life? It took me a while to answer this question as I had to sit with it, when it came, this is what I came up with: what I want to accomplish in life is that every single person I get in contact with is awakened to their potential, so they leave their reasons behind and they start creating the life of their dreams, achieving abundance, joy, laughter, love and total happiness. A bit unambitious, I know!

That is the moment I discovered I wanted to be of help to others, empower them and create victors who forget excuses and remember reasons to be amazing and reasons to do instead of not to do.

I learned that the person I had to be was someone big, bold, courageous, brave, a go getter, powerful, strong and committed. I was sold!

I wanted to be that person, I fell in love with the idea of being strong! I grew up “thinking” I was the runt of the litter! I had all the reasons to give up on my dreams and life, yet I didn’t because I found the idea of being all of these amazing things more powerful than being a runt of a litter or a victim!

A list of qualities, characteristics and attributes stood in front of me and I got busy becoming ALL of these things AND I found ways to become ALL of them.

I became a confidence and success coach and having confidence opens all these doors to so many but I had to start with myself, so I could tell the tale to others, like I am doing right now.

To be you, you have to be honest and transparent with yourself, the truth is not many people give two flying f*cks, I used to hold myself back because of what others might think.

When I put two and two together and I got much more than 4, I got common sense; people would only care about things for minutes, hours or days at the very maximum, after that they’d forget about it ALL, because they also have their own inner stuff, battles or sh*t that keep them preoccupied.

Discovering how to be you is a journey that you MUST be willing to embark on and learn what hasn’t been learn, grow muscles and attitudes you haven’t yet, study and learn skills that haven’t been learned, leave the unwanted/unnecessary behind, search for what’s needed instead of what you think might be wanted.

Becoming you is learning about yourself, what makes you tick and what triggers you (trust me on the last one!!!), it is about learning to communicate effectively (I learn something new on this subject daily!), it is about being honest with yourself and your intentions and quite frankly it isn’t about you either, it is about others!

How to be you can only be learned by you, others might be able to help you but ultimately it is up to YOU whether you become a “copycat” or an unique print of yourself!

In Summary

To be you, you mustn’t be someone else, you ought to discover who you are by embarking on a journey of self-discovery learning what hasn’t been learned AND putting what you learn into practice, aligning your passions, what you love and excite you with how you can help others.

Being authentic, genuine and original makes so much more sense when others benefit from it, and the more people you help the greater the rewards you reap.

Thank you so much for reading today’s post and please share with your friends and family.

With all my love,


My Week In 500 Words – v2

My Week In 500 Words – v2

It is a great feeling when you get from the week rather than through the week!

Things seem to make so much more sense.

There were three things that really stood out for me and these are:

1. People are ALWAYS a contribution to us, I believe communication is a gift that we give others and ourselves, and it is in these interactions that we learn so much about others, how we occur to them AND ways in which we can improve, feedback is such a powerful tool that well used has the potential to transform our lives.
2. I spent a couple of hours in the part taking pictures of pigeons and I remembered how great it is to be in nature surrounded by animals and watch them be, there is such harmony and balance in the way they co-exist that we can learn from them. I left feeling so energised and connected to everything, including myself, great experience.
3. This third point is very fresh, it literally happened an hour ago or so; I received an email from the daughter of a lady I used to know. It read: Please join us in remembering the life of our Mother, we can’t believe it has been 3 years already. I remembered hearing the news 3 years and how I felt, I met this lady only once and she touched my soul in such a way that I remember her fondly; I sent her daughter an email sharing how much her mother meant to me and how I still remember her, that the Christmas card she gave me all those years ago I still keep and when I read it I feel her Energy, I feel how she empowers me and encourages me to carry on being great and to NEVER give up on my dreams, that whatever I focus on I attract. I felt such gratitude for having met her and having learned so much from her, as I said to her daughter she will forever be in my heart and soul for she has been one of the greatest influences in my life.

Writing this summary of my week is a great strategy for me to go over what I have done, accomplished and learned in the last 7 days, by doing this I feel I am getting from the week twice as much.

It is important to mention my week isn’t that perfect, I have made mistakes, I have cursed things (and myself) at times and there have been seconds in which I feel like: what is the point?

But is having in mind what my friend who passed away 3 years ago said: whatever you focus on you attract, and I have been choosing to focus on the good stuff and sharing it with others so I get more of if and feel the benefits twice as much.

Thank you for reading, till next time,

With all my love,


YOU Are Precious!

Yesterday I was having a good catch-up with a friend and we talked about pretty much there is to talk when 2 friends who haven’t seen each other for a number of months.

As you can imagine this went on for a while, with lots of laughter and banter.

Then we were talking about our careers and goals, at this point we talked about rates and time and I simply said my fees match how much my time is worth as it is precious to me.

My friend looked at me and smiled and he said:

Your time isn’t precious, YOU ARE!

At this point he could see my jaw dropping to the floor.

My friend reminded me of something so simple and powerful which is my worth.

For a while now I have allowed myself to subscribe to the theory that istis our time that is precious… and yes our time is finite and once it is gone that’s it! We can’t get it back…

But hearing my friend reminder I was able to see that it isn’t the time I am investing that is precious, it is my input and what I bring into the hour that makes it precious, how I perceive myself and my worth.

I define how precious my time is based on what I do or don’t with it.

My day was totally enhanced by this realisation/reminder that it doesn’t matter what I do or for how long, I am the one who dictates how precious/valuable what I am doing actually is, not the length of time spent doing it.

Again, this chat with my friend stressed how powerful it is when we allow others in and how much they can teach you in just a few seconds and with very few words.

Thank you for reading, till next time,


Benefits Of Being Organised

Benefits Of Being Organised

Often we hear people saying the secret to their success is: either their organisational skills/time keeping or their drive.

All of these are right and in simplistic terms whatever works for each individual.

I have previously touched on time and drive, so today I thought I’d talk about being organised?

But what are the benefits?

Again, depending on what we are after or our profession, being organised could mean or manifest differently like having systems in place, or being on time, following up or simply getting things done.

I am listing 5 top benefits of being organised in my experience.

1. Peace of mind! I dislike the idea of overcomplicating my life, so I schedule EVERYTHING and stick to that schedule unless I must change it. Having a clear idea lf what I am doing frees me from any of the stresses I may encounter during the day AND it keeps stress itself away.

2. A sense of achievement, it doesn’t matter how big or small a task, if a plan goes as planned it just feels amazing and motivated you to do even more.

3. Frees time for other activities, knowing what to do and when and sticking to that plan means you are time rich, you won’t waste a second unnecessarily and ALL your time will be wisely invested.

4. It gives you more credibility, who doesn’t want to be known as the go getter and the one who gets things done? It is great for our self-esteem too!

5. Gives you time for yourself! Being organised and on top of everything gives you you time! A lot of people feel overwhelmed and snowed under because they aren’t getting things done or lack of organisation.

Let’s be quite frank and honest here, there are two types of people in the world:

• The ones who get through the day, and

• The ones who get from the Day.

Which one are you?

Due to my work I have learned and noticed how our performance is an mirror representation of our inner world.

In fewer words our lack of results is telling us there is something to be dealt with.

The big S or stress is also a HUGE influencing factor in our results and organisational skills.

Stress is much more than being anxious or overwhelmed, it almost literally drives our states and interactions.

If we don’t pay attention to what is happening in our outter world let’s face we won’t know there might be something needing addressing in our inner world.

Remember how previously I have mentioned that the first step to change anything is awareness? If we aren’t aware of the results we are or aren’t producing through our organisational skills we won’t know what needs to be improved.

Isn’t it powerful how the way we do one thing is the way we do everything?

Thank you for reading today’s post, till next time,


How To Feel Great In 1 Minute?

How To Feel Great In 1 Minute?

Often we are told that change takes time, and yes depending on the case it can take some time; and this alone can make us feel overwhelmed and somehow discouraged.

However, I have learned in theory and the hard way that nothing can be started, done or achieved if we aren’t in the right frame of mind OR feeling great.

You can’t be happy if you feel sad, right?

But, how long does it take to feel great?

Forever? Ages? Who knows? How long is a piece of string?

It takes virtually no time to feel great!

I will share 2 things that can make you feel great in 1 minute:

1. Gratitude: you can’t feel ‘miserable’ if you are grateful; often we forget what’s right and what is good in our lives, focus on this and you will see how your mood shifts and you start to feel amazing immediately.

2. Breathe: sometimes we just need to stop and take a deep breath in and let some clarity in so we notice the reality of things, how things aren’t as bad as we make them out to be.

Feeling great isn’t rocket science, it requires practice and knowing what make us feel great.

We live in a society were our culture is that of “instant gratification” and we want most things now!

Even feeling great can be achieved right now… in just under a minute.

Practice these two tips on how to feel great in a minute and do it daily, let this feeling take over your day, week, month AND life.

Allow yourself to feel great.

Thank you for reading.

Till next time, with all my love,


Lessons Learned Through Modern Energy Art

Lessons Learned Through Modern Energy Art


Nothing in life is worth doing if we aren’t learning any lessons from it, either good or bad lessons.

For as long as I can remember I have been a student of life, I guess I have one of those personalities where I have to have answers and if the people I ask don’t have them and I get to work and I do whatever it takes to get those answers.

I believe there are no mistakes or errors or booboos of f*ck ups in life, simply feedback and lessons, we will continue to “mess up” until we learn these lessons and then eventually move on.

Recently talking to a friend I commented on how blessed I was, as for most of my life I have learned through other people’s “mistakes” and “testimonials”, so my learning curve has been rather quick and pleasant too.

In personal development it is said that the first step for change is: awareness.

When you have awareness you literally see magic unfold before your very eyes and EVERYTHING seems to ‘make sense’, it is a great feeling and life becomes a walk in the park.

But what happens when you don’t have this awareness?

Truthfully, not much!!! Life, work, romance, you name it, these things do NOT seem to work at all; we are stressed, ‘under pressure’, we feel useless, overwhelming feelings, etc., etc.

Without awareness life isn’t as joyous or fun. Without it, you don’t know what you are doing right or ‘wrong’, what mistakes are being made, what needs to be improved, whether what you are doing works or not. Simple tasks can take up to twice as long, EVERYTHING becomes a burden or a chore!

If you are like me (especially if you are in personal development), there comes a point when you get to the ‘good stuff’ in your life, and by this I mean the stuff that has not being dealt with before AND this is when real and incredible transformation starts to take place.

Though, two things tend to occur here:

  1. We might not want to talk to anyone, for various reasons; or,
  2. We have no idea what is holding us back.

So, if we don’t have this ‘awareness’ to solve a ‘problem’ because we don’t want to talk about or because we don’t know what it is, what do we do?

More personal development? Or, try something new?

I guess this would be a very personal choice and I will share what I did and what insight and awareness it shone into my life.

Modern Energy Art


When we talk or hear Art, we immediately thing of Picasso, Da Vinci, Michelangelo, etc., people that history has told us are the greatest and most amazing artists EVER, and when we see their art we either think: what a masterpiece or what the hell!

I grew up thinking I was not good at drawing, never mind art.

Memories from childhood would haunt me, having to draw vases, or fruit baskets, or landscapes (the idea of art would trigger the hell out of me!); so, it’d end up either asking my mum to do it for me OR paying my cousin to do it for me.

Arts and Sports were my nemesis at school!

Every time I was colouring something in I’d go out of the edges and I’d lose my temper. In a nutshell, I quit the idea of EVER being an artist at a very young age.

There was no hope in hell for me as an artist, or at least I thought that.

In order for healing to occur and take place something magical has to happen or be done; though, in my experience our instinct (or 6th sense) always knows and when we listen to it we give this healing permission to take place.

I am blessed to say that I ‘almost’ always listen to my 6th sense and when I don’t I regret it immediately.

So, last year a friend, mentor and role model, Silvia Hartmann announced she’d be opening a coaching programme called: Modern Energy Art Apprenticeship; the second I heard about it I knew I had to do it.

However, at first, I made every excuse under the sun as to why I couldn’t do it:

  • Time,
  • Money,
  • Energy,
  • Was it worth it,
  • Do I have all the resources needed,
  • I am not an artist!,
  • What if I can’t do it, etc.

The typical excuses we all make and the ones I encourage my clients to dismiss when they REALLY want something!

Here is the thing, Silvia only opened it to 12 people and the spaces were flying real quick, as many people I suffer from F.O.M.O (fear of missing out), so every time she announced there was another space gone my heart would skip a beat.

I was sat on the fence for days and when there were only two spaces left I jumped in.

So, I got to work and I emailed Silvia for my first task! Originally the idea of doing art by myself without a tutor or teacher by my side was terrifying.

I loved how everything started! Silvia simply asked:

What were your first memories of art?

That was easy for me to answer: I loved playing with crayons when I was a child, I loved the freedom of doodling on the paper for hours on end, the smell of the wax and feeling of the crayons on the paper.

As I was typing the answer I had my first breakthrough and insight! I saw how this was a great investment, opportunity and the vehicle I needed to move to the next level AND I was thankful to my 6th sense for guiding me to it.

Then we moved onto the first drawing, an egg, what a metaphor! The beginning and birth of something new…


So, I did my first egg, it was painted using crayons. When I was drawing and painting the egg I was a child again, full of hope and dreams, the joy and love that irradiated from me at that moment was so healing and powerful that I lost track of time.

The feeling was so addictive that I did 2 more eggs and I had another insight:

I realised how much I judged people! I used to comment about people who were buying colouring books and colouring in instead of getting one with their work and lives; I learned I was the one missing out, I was the one who wasn’t healing nor giving myself the time to reenergise or clear my mind.

More tasks came in and I was producing even more paintings, when I thought I couldn’t paint or do any form of art.

Second insight:

I was making excuses for the sake of making excuses! How can I know I can’t do anything if I don’t give it a go? I couldn’t draw as a child but that doesn’t mean I can’t do it as an adult!

As the days, weeks and months went through I was learning so much about myself, without even looking for these answers!!!


I started to notice improvements in other areas of my life too!

Lessons learned through Modern Energy Art:

  1. I judged people without knowing their motives for doing what they were doing,
  2. I was making excuses for the sake of making them,
  3. I discovered how much of a perfectionist I was and how it was holding me back!,
  4. I realised I dislike the idea of being told what to AND following instructions/systems,
  5. I learned that in order to solve a problem, I must focus on the solution instead of the problem,
  6. When you are ready to be healed the healing event will manifest itself,
  7. Best healing occurs without words,
  8. Energy is ever present and the more Energy you put into something, the more you will get out,
  9. You are responsible for your happiness and joy, you ought to look for what’s missing,
  10. Intuition is everything, our 6th sense is there for a reason, lets use it,
  11. Energy well spent is Energy well invested,
  12. I learned I can do anything and that I am unstoppable, I am the only one who can stop me,
  13. I learned that the past really doesn’t define me, it is what I do in the now that does,
  14. Art isn’t rocket science, it is a form of self-expression therefore an Energy exchange,
  15. I am creative and not just an Artist, but a Modern Energy Artist,
  16. I discovered that I am awesome,
  17. I learned to love my creations, people’s opinions count but they aren’t everything,
  18. I learned to give myself a pat on the back, I am creating magic in my life,
  19. I realised the importance of feedback and how powerful and healing it can be,
  20. I learned there is so much more to discover about me and that I am only getting started!

I have taken a small selection of the lessons I have learned so far, it pleases to know I made the right decision when I took on this programme and how far I have come.

Energy is awareness and it is this what moves us forward and closer to our enlightenment and the life of our dreams.

In conclusion


Energy art is not just art, it is a self-healing tool where you the artist creative art as well as evolve and learn valuable lessons about yourself and your life.

You grow, you evolve, you discover what you are capable of.

Magic appears in your life, stays in your soul and you continue to sparkle towards your awesomeness.

What’s not to like?

Thank you so much for reading and comment on this post and let me know your experiences with art either as an artist or as a admirer.

Till next time,


How To Get ‘Stuff’ Done?

How To Get ‘Stuff’ Done?

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When I was all “new” to adulthood and goal setting I was totally naïve, I had no idea about what I wanted nor how to get what I wanted.

I had very limited skills, I had a lot “potential” and yet I felt stuck!

Growing up I was very academic, which to be totally honest was more coincidental than anything else as I had a “pushy mother” on the one hand and no friends on the other!

What I mean to say is: studying hard and spending some time gathering information was NOT uncommon for me nor challenging…

So, I got to work and with what I found I was left even more confused!!!

Truthfully, it didn’t take much to confuse me as EVERYTHING was new to me, I became an adult far away from what I was used to: different language, different environment, different culture and I was alone, I had no family with me, just a partner who didn’t know how to communicate the adult stuff to me.

I read and read AND read till my eyes went red and square; I even found myself searching for the meaning of life, there had to be a clue somewhere.

All I found was:

  • You have to be motivated to achieve your goals and get sh*t done,
  • You have to set SMART goals (I did wonder who’d want to set STUPID goals?) LOL!,
  • You have to commit and be accountable for your actions,
  • You have to get to work straight away.

These all made sense and kind of did make a difference in my life at the time, however, it was through my own trial and error that I learned what was missing.

The missing link!

It wasn’t until I was in my late 20’s and tired of the “rat race” and being dictated my worth that I got serious about creating a vision and a very compelling future for myself, so something I have never done had to be done.

What was it?


I had to be disciplined and do what others wouldn’t do to work magic in my life, I wanted to be self-employed and call my shots, I had to be someone else, someone who’d be stopped at NOTHING!

How did I do this?

When I look back and see what I did then I admire myself for the sacrifices made and EVERYHTING I did to make my dreams come true.

I was working full-time for a catering company and at the same time I was studying a full time Management course in my local college, a part time accountancy foundation AND some online courses.

I didn’t sleep more than 3 hours for months and months, I never missed one day at work or college, I submitted all my assignments on time AND I started a new relationship at the same time. If I am honest, the new relationships was the hardest!!!

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The discipline I introduced into my routine was worthy of the military, up at the crack of dawn and I’d be up until EVERYTHING that had to be done was done. I pushed myself to new heights and I discovered I could do WHATEVER I set my mind to.

If I am honest, my dreams didn’t materialise immediately, it was on the second year of my Management course when I noticed how poorly staff were trained at work, how they were made feel they were unworthy of their jobs and this resulted in all of them having a low self-esteem, ultimately affecting the results at work.

This was the moment I discovered I was only getting started and there was more I had to do to not only work on my terms but to help people overcome their self-esteem and confidence issues, and to provide the appropriate training tools for employers so their staff performance and self-esteem were EVER increasing.

In conclusion

The 2 lessons I learned to get stuff done were:

  • I had to be disciplined, do what I had never done before, go where I had never gone before and do whatever (within reason!) it took to get sh*t done!
  • I had to become someone else, not a crummy version of someone else or a copy-cat, but a me that would stop at NOTHING to make my dreams come true, to overcome the obstacles that would come my way and have the strength I needed to go all the way where my dreams were.

This is what I learned worked for me, becoming disciplined and a better, stronger version of myself, I added these to the goal setting, motivation and ALL the other things I had learned.

You want to know what?

That search I did about the meaning of life did help, it enabled me to distinguish that I had to think of others and have a purpose, essentially become more to do more.

Powerful stuff, right?

I am glad you have read today’s post and I look forward to writing more useful content for you.

With all my love,


My Week In 500 Words – Week 1

My Week In 500 Words – Week 1

I find the beginning of the year a tough time! For the last decade or so I have faced the consequences or reaped the rewards of my actions, the steps taken or not.

So far, I have been working really hard so 2018 is my best year yet! And I know it will be!!!

Clients bookings coming in all directions, students wanting to train with me, my sense of wellbeing and fitness increasing AND in the right direction, motivating and inspiring others and myself at the same time.

All these boxes and some more have been ticked so far, in the last week, in the first 7 days of the year.

I have taken the time to reflect on 2017 and all the incredible lessons I brought with me to this year, I set very clear and empowering goals that WILL transform many lives.

At midnight when we entered into 2018 I made the conscious decision that I would raise my standards AND the bar so high so that I can become the person that can achieve my ambitious goals.

I’ve had the honour to spend some precious time with my partner and creating memories that will bring us closer together and take us to new heights personally and in our relationship. I reflected on how incredibly fortunate I am to have him by my side, for being my rock and support at ALL times.

My health has become so important to me that I have almost become evangelical about the importance of being healthy or healthier and creating a movement of health to empower and heal the world. So, now my next big goal is my fitness, I want to achieve the body and fitness level I deserve and that requires some discipline.

Yesterday was such a great day as I caught up with a friend and our conversation was so healing and powerful for the both of us and I am EVER so grateful to have that calibre of people in my live, it’s a joy!

As if things weren’t great enough I committed myself to writing my first fiction novel to a room of 15 people, who are aspiring writers! They will hold me accountable for it and it is a great feeling to know there are people who barely know you and yet they care about you honouring your word!

Gosh, I am so blessed I sometimes forget how lucky I am to be where I am and doing what I am doing! Yes, I know I have worked for it but to be able to reflect on it and see it on a regular basis is such a blessing.

I can confirm and announce that my first week in 2018 has been an amazing and powerful week that I am so excited and looking to discovering what else will be coming my way in the next days, weeks and months.

To an even better year.

Forever yours,


You Are Amazing

You Are Amazing


There are so many things I loooove doing and I do my best to do them all so I don’t feel I am missing out on anything.

One of these things is writing poetry.

I was ever so fortunate when I was in middle and high school as I had the most passionate teachers in literature and poetry, I loved reading the books assigned not only because they told a story or taught me something new but because I got to step into the author/narrator’s mind and interpret what he meant at the time.

Even to this day I have so much respect for those ladies who gave so much, and I honour them by writing non-fiction books and poetry.

So, back in November 2017 a mentor asked to write a poetry to recite in front of an audience at a conference I was attending at the time, I couldn’t say no AND I had no time to write it, also I hadn’t written anything for a while, so it felt a bit challenging.

I let my innate intelligence guide my fingers over the keys and I let the words flow as if an unknown energy took over me and this is what came out.

You are amazing!

The words, the energy and the sentiment behind this poem are a celebration to life and to love and to us.

This is one of my favourite poems to date, so enjoy it.

Please share this poems in your social networks and spread this celebration.

With all my love,



You Are Amazing


Wondrous and marvellous being,

YOU were born out of a miracle,

Out of the universe of love YOU came from,

The chances were slim, yet you made it.


The day to arrive into this world came,

You fought and you pushed and out you came.

The light you saw and a deep breath you took, AND

Out a scream of LIFE came marking your arrival.


Hours, days and months of learning and growing came,

Everything was, oh so new and yet all so familiar,

You fell, you failed, you cried and AGAIN you stood,

Your sheer resilience and tenacity NEVER let you down.


Do YOU even know what an incredible GIFT to this world YOU are?

You are an inspiration, you are a god among us,

Yet, you seem to have forgotten who you REALLY are!

So, here I am a messenger from heavens to tell you just that.


Your life and what you do matters, YOU matter,

Cast the doubt and the fear to one side and break free,

Step into your greatness, let the light a new way show you,

Let your life be that of your dreams, be a flame in the fire of life.


Your thoughts, your ideas and EVERYTHING you do the world they can change,

You have forgotten the essence of who you are,

You have let the noises from the world around drown you and your awesomeness,

WAKE UP, STAND UP, STEP UP, TAKE A STAND and reveal who you TRULY are.


Listen to my words, hear my message,

I believe in you, I know who you really are,

Stop playing small, this is NOT your real role,

You are, oh so much more.


Riches, wealth and infinite abundance your birthright are,

Anything you can have, but the do must you do,

And firstly you ought to be, not anything nor anyone,

Be, be you, be who you know yourself to be.


Magic, love, passion AND so much more,

Listen to the voice of your heart, feel the fire burning in your soul,

Be, live, love, find yourself, free yourself,

Wake up to the real you, and live for the first time.

Learn, unlearn and most importantly relearn,

That you are love, that you are important,

That there is no one like you,

Nor there will EVER be ANYone like you!







Written by Jorge Vence

You are amazing

Once Upon A Time…

Once Upon A Time…

Once upon a time there was a very kind deity that gave all of his creation a whole new start.

Their lives started afresh and hope was renewed.

These beings (who totally underestimated what they were capable of) were given new opportunities annually.

365 days, composed of 52 weeks, 12 months, 8760 hours, 525600 minutes and 31536000 seconds filled with so much energy and all the required ingredients to make any of these beings successful and fulfilled beyond their wildest dreams and imagination.

At midnight where the old and the new year met and changed their course billions of these beings would make promises, cast wishes and would swear the year ahead would be their best ever.

Here is where the twists and turns of this story begin…

These beings would celebrate drinking the nectar of decay to numb themselves from the year past, their consciousness would be wiped out and all of their abilities would be compromised.


Cheers and cries of both sadness and joy would be heard, a false sense of safety, connection and hope would be felt, beings from all over the place would gather and witness how the years crossed and changed their directions.

Old and young, males and females, educated and uneducated would stand side by side and start the countdown…

5, 4, 3, 2, 1…



The cheer and joy would be contagious.

Oh I love you man, this is your year I know it, I can feel it, no man this is our year, we have worked so hard and it is only fair.

The drinking of this nectar would continue, it was such a profitable business for its distributor.

Other more ‘sophisticated’ or wealthier or sillier beings would even purchase other substances to heightened their joy and euphoria and welcome the new year in a real ‘high’.

This gathering, party of the new year would last for many hours and even days if the time of the week allowed it.


The first day of the year, at the very beginning of this new era of hope, the WHOLE planet would be unconscious, wasted and numbed, the false illusion of certainty would have them helpless in what could be the most important day of their lives.

A day becomes 2 days and 3 and 4 days and next thing the ‘mañana’ syndrome starts to spread.


I will do it in a minute, this minute’s life span seems to break all the laws of the universe as it gets longer and longer and longer and nothing gets done, the task is ‘brushed under the carpet’ and they start to doubt themselves.

This pandemic would spread worldwide and noone would talk about it, heads would be ‘buried in the sand’ and they would continue to pretend everything was fine.

Beliefs would be formed at a conscious and unconscious levels…

I don’t deserve it,

I am not good enough,

I can’t do it,

People like me don’t deserve happiness,

If only I was taller,

If only I was slimmer…

Negative thoughts would pile on top of each other compounding their effect and you could see in these beings faces their hopes and desires for the year started to fade away…

Just another year, same “crap” just another decade…

Life will never change for us… only the ‘chosen ones’ get what they want in life…

Sighs of resignation and cynicism would soon spread across the globe and then the news would start…


Poverty is at its highest and doubled since last year,

Exploitation has quadrupled since the beginning of records,

Slavery has resurfaced this time as voluntary slavery…


Home repossessions, etc, etc…


These news would demoralise these beings and the light of hope they brought with them into the new year would soon disappear.

Their lives and world would see their colour fade away slowly until it totally disappeared and black and white would appear and take everything with it.

But if only…

They did something different the whole year and perhaps their lives would follow a different route.

They hadn’t explored of what it’d be like welcoming the new year sober or at least ‘semi-conscious’ and start with a clear head.

If the only knew how starting not so much the day but the year with a clear head and started to:

• Reflect on the year gone what worked and what didn’t work,

• What could be done differently,

• New career path in order to fulfil their dreams,

• Write down their goals and focused on what they really wanted to achieve in life,

• Doing something that moves them closer to their goal on a daily basis, from day one,

• Being honest with themselves and change what needs to change so their lives improve,

• Ask for help,

• Save for something worthwhile or important,

• Learn to be kind to themselves. 


If only they knew that their power is unlimited and anything is at their disposition.

If they only knew that the only thing that has stopped them all those previous years has been themselves and that they only need some guidance and support to help them on their way.

If they only knew that the most important moment of the day is their right now, the second they hesitate to take action because none was taken a second earlier. That the new year, new me; new year, better luck is but a myth.

If they only knew that yesterday’s mistakes and lack of results do not equal tomorrow’s failures but instead tomorrow’s lessons and feedbacks.

If instead of quitting on the 10th of January they carried on till the end of the year or beyond, until those dreams come true.

If they only knew that they are ALL the ‘chosen ones’, that anything worth having is worth working for and never stopping until it materialises and fulfill them to the core of their beings.


If they only knew that their lives and their stories are worth sharing with the rest of the world AND that they deserve happiness, joy and a lifetime of achievement.

If they only knew that they can do anything, and that there wasn’t a force strong enough to stop them from accomplishing their goals and fulfilling their lives.

If they only knew beliefs and behaviours are stories they keep telling themselves over and over and over again AND that they can override those stories any time and tell themselves a new empowering and uplifting story instead.

If they only knew that their lives matter and that by them living a powerful and magical life the WHOLE world would be inspired to follow suit and live a powerful and magical life.

If they only knew and realised that a life well lived is a life with ups and downs, triumphs and failures and always arriving at that goal that makes it all worth it.

If they only knew that people care about their happiness and achievements and that love and support were there for them if they needed them.


Though, it isn’t until one of them wakes up and shares with others what’s possible and becomes the evidence that the rest will follow.

All it takes is a person in a family, in a community, in a village, in a province, in a country to defy the odds and become the evidence.

So, in the end it is a choice what makes all the difference in these beings lives, do they continue doing what they have always done, or do they start a new paradigm?

The truth is we will only know when we hear about it through their stories, and anecdotes till then we can only wonder what happens next in the lives of these beings…

When a person reaches their full potential magic occurs AND people start dreaming again and getting to work, so life and love and hope start to spread like wildfire and people become an unstoppable force.

All it takes is one person who says yes to living, yes to life, yes to love and yes to creating a magnificent life.

Are you willing to be that person?

Happy New Year, may 2018 be the year in which your passion and love for life become contagious and you end up touching the lives of countless others.

With all my love,


Can anyone really be 100% confident?

​I used to ask myself this question ALL the time, I mean none stop:

Can anyone really be 100% confident?

In ALL areas of their lives?

At ALL times?

I’d be scratching my head and almost lost sleep over it. 

I knew nothing else, lack of confidence and low self-esteem  is all I knew.

So, I just wondered and never asked anyone. 

I carried on with my life and met wonderful people AND I got to work on my personal development, and towards the life I wanted. 

Next thing I was confident and I totally forgot about that question I once asked myself time and time again.

Until people started asking the same question to me… They were even more confident than I was by asking that question.

So, I got thinking and observing.

And here are my findings:

  1. People are always facing challenges, therefore their confidence is affected by it and at the same time just because they don’t show it, it doesn’t mean it isn’t there.
  2. People are confident in some areas of their lives and not confident in others. 
  3. Some people face their “challenges” head on and feel the fear and do it anyway, so they develop that muscle and next time when they face similar situations they know what to do. And,
  4. Growing in confidence is an ongoing journey, it really never ends.

Just because you don’t feel or see yourself as a confident person it doesn’t mean you aren’t in some areas.

I have met really shy people who aren’t “as confident as” me, though in front of others they do come across as confident, brave, courageous and bold.

What you see in yourself isn’t what others see in you. 

Typical example would be parents with “no” confidence, to their children they are heroes and they can do anything. 

To many of us some friends, bosses or teachers come across as confident, though behind closed doors don’t know their “reality”.

So, to answer that question, the answer is a big fat and emphatic NO.

NOONE is really confident at all times. 

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post. 

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Till next time,


Just Another Year, Or Is It?

Just Another Year, Or Is It?1

Before I get carried away writing today’s blog I want to take the opportunity to wish you all a prosperous, fabulous and above all love-filled 2017.


Some people say the year gone was but a rehearsal, others even say that this year is going to be THE year, this is the time when we claim our lives back, our power and once and for all we get to be excellent.

If you are like me, I am sure you may have even said this yourself.

The sobering and scary truth is that no single year, ever is a rehearsal, once that time is gone, once those 365 days are gone, that is it.

I used to be really good at maths, and every now and then I like to use it (just in case what they say is true, use it or lose it!!!).


In a year, we have 365 days, 52 weeks, 12 months, 8,760 hours, 525,600 minutes and 31,536,000 seconds.

We are only getting started…

So, if you live in a Western country, in average you will work 40 hours (which translates into 8 hours per day, based on a 5-day working week), you will be entitled to at least 2 weeks holidays, plus any other public holidays (which I am ignoring, as they vary from country to country!).

If you are fairly “normal” you will sleep a minimum of 6 hours per night, you will spend a couple of hours eating and getting ready, a couple of hours getting to and from work (let’s not take into account traffic and other natural phenomena), you will probably also have a couple of hours of leisure where you do your own thing (to remain sane).

For those of you who are parents, I will give you 2 hours to help your children with homework and any other things you might do with your children daily, like putting them to bed, chasing them around the house, etc.

Also, let’s add 14 hours per week for house chores, shopping, etc.

Are you with me so far?

This is what we have so far, weekly

Work: 40-Hours

Sleep: 42-Hours

Eating: 14-Hours

Moving around: 14-Hours

Leisure: 14-Hours

Children: 14-Hours

Chores: 14-Hours

If we wanted to see this daily (based on 5 days) this is what I would look like:

Work: 8-Hours

Sleep: 6-Hours

Eating: 2-Hours

Moving around: 2-Hours

Leisure: 2-Hours

Children: 2-Hours

Chores: 2-Hours

If my calculations aren’t wrong this is how much time you have left at the end of each day: 0!!!

Are you surprised?

You probably aren’t and neither am I!

You might be asking what happens with the other 2 days?

You end up with 16 hours to catch up and get on with whatever didn’t get done during your working week, which very strangely these days is: more work!

If you are not at work, you are either thinking of work, that you might lose your job, thinking of changing jobs, maybe even starting your own business and next thing, it is time to go back to work.

Why did I do this morbid calculation I hear you say!

I wanted to illustrate why some people never ever get out of the hamster wheel of life.

It is really easy to have dreams and hopes and ideas of what the future may hold; however, if we don’t do something different to what we have always done, we will continue to get the same results, or worse still (if that was even possible!), we may even end up in a worse off position – it has been known, it is happening around us all the time.

Was 2016 a trial run for 2017?

Did you say the same about 2015? And 2014? And 2013? And the last 10 years?

What have you been doing with your time?

Did you know that for millennia we have done whatever we could to make ourselves look younger, to travel back in time, and simply put to have more time.

Time is the only resource that is not infinite to us, once a day has gone that is it, it is gone forever, it will not come back, it is part of our past and memories.

Also, let’s be honest, the only form in which it comes back to us is as regrets, the ‘what ifs., the it ‘could have beens’, and ‘the cowardly only ifs’!

What are you going to do differently this year?

Me, for starters, I have had a serious conversation with myself, I sat myself down and I asked myself the question: Jorge, what do you want in 2017? Really, for real, what do you want?

My question to you is what do you want to accomplish in 2017?

At this point, I want to highlight, I have not used the word “change” on purpose because I believe that in order to get what we want in life and achieve our goals, change isn’t what will get us there, it is by transforming and evolving what we already possess that will make the difference.

Let me explain this further…

When we are working towards a goal, it isn’t by changing or forcing change that we will get the results we desire.

On the other hand, if we look at what we have and ways in which we could move things around, shift things (and this includes our thoughts), evolve things to be more effective and efficient we will be motivated to move in the direction of our goal, rather than fighting it because it is something we don’t want to “change”.

Have you set aside some time to plan the year ahead?

For the last few years I have taken the very first day of the year to set my goals for the year ahead, I do my wheel of life and look at the areas of my life that need improving and write my goals around them.

I look at my fitness and wellbeing, my relationships, my spirituality and finances and compare them to the previous year.

Then I ask myself the following questions:

What went well?

What worked?

What didn’t work?

What can I do to make it better next year?

And this gives birth to the strategies I will use to execute these goals.


Do you set aside some time to reflect on the year gone? To ask yourself what do I have to do to get my s – – t done?

Is there an aspect of your life that doesn’t satisfy you?

What is it?

What can you do this year to transform it?

When I look around, especially today, many people will have wasted the most important day of the year. They will be in bed (most of the day) with a sore head and “trying” to figure out what they left behind in the “old” year!

Today is the day when you set your intention for the year.

What will I achieve in January?

What will I accomplish in February (the shortest month of the year)?

What will I have got done in the first quarter of the month (end of March)?

I remember one of Tony Robbins famous quotes:

“The quality of your life depends and it’s based on the quality of the questions you ask yourself.”


What do I want to?

Where do I want to be?

When will I have accomplished my goal by?

How can I ensure I get my s – – t done?

How much money will I have in my bank account by the end of the year?

Who do I need to speak to to help me with my dreams?

Why do I want to do this?

What questions are you asking yourself that will empower you to move forward?

Here are some other questions I will be asking myself in 2017

Is that next glass of wine going to help me move forward?

How long will I have to exercise to burn the calories in that kebab?

Will I regret it tomorrow?

What would my mother say?

What will my 90 years old self say about this?

Will I be using this in 10 years time?

Is this enriching my life in some shape or form?

Will I need this money tomorrow?

Who can I help with this?

Do I really want this?

Who am I really wanting to impress with this?

2017 doesn’t have to be the same as the previous years

I believe we all know what we have to do to fulfil our dreams and create the lives we desire.

We all know we don’t have to eat too much or drink till we lose consciousness.

We know we have to exercise, especially as we get older for mobility, flexibility and weight reasons.

We all understand the importance of education and learning. Those who are self-taught and self-educated are the ones who can vouch for it.

If what we did and tried in previous years didn’t work, is there any point in wasting our time, money and energy doing the same? Really!!!

The answer is NO!

Be smart, be savvy, do not rob yourself of the magnificent life that belongs to you.

When I was working out how many hours we have left at the end of each day I was somewhat upset.

I will tell you why I was upset because some people waste the most valuable days and years of their lives hoping that someday everything will be better, that someday that rich man or woman will show up.

They hope that someday they will win the lottery (without even buying any tickets!!!), they dream of someday waking up and realising it was all a dream.

That someday they will be slimmer, that someday they will be X or Y or Z.

Dear friends, I have got news for you…

There is NO someday!!!

Someday is a make-believe messed up idea we created to excuse ourselves. To absolve ourselves for doing nothing,,,

The time to get s – – t done is now, today, this very second.


We go through live hoping that someday it will all be better, and then when it comes to our last breath on this planet we spend it regretting all the things we didn’t do, because the penny finally drops that there is no someday.

Do you want to wake up at some point in 2017 regretting you didn’t take action when you could have?

Do you want to end 2017 the same way you did with 2016 and 2015… and 2008… and 2000… and 1995?

Someday is TODAY.

Today is THE day.


Today is the day when you say:

You know what I am good enough and I deserve the best in life. Let’s just wake up and grab the bull by the horns.

Do you want to have your own business?

Brilliant. What are you going to do about it?

Do you want to have a salary raise?

Excellent! How are you going to “convince” your boss you deserve it?

Do you want a new job?

Marvellous… What job is it you want?

You get the idea…

At this point I want to stress:

The quality of your life depends on the quality of the questions you ask yourself!!!

2017 isn’t a trial run. 2017 isn’t about change. 2017 isn’t about the same old.

2017 is about action. 2017 is about NOW. 2017 is about exploiting your excellence. 2017 is all about YOU.

Start asking yourself some powerful questions that will help you head in the right direction.

Have a fantastic day.

May 2017 be the best year in your life yet.


With all my love,







Fuego En Mi Vientre

Fuego En Mi Vientre

Lo Que Mantiene El Fuego En Mi Ardiendo


Cuando crecía, como muchas personas, pensé que no tenía nada que ofrecer; es más, pensé que solo era una “casualidad” más del sistema.

No sabía nada sobre propósito o misión; no comprendía que la gente exitosa lo era porque tenían algo que les mantenía siguiendo en su camino.

Voy a ser brutalmente honesto, fui el resultado de la programación que me fue pasada en mi ambiente, esto incluye mi familia, maestros, genética, etc., etc.

Nuevamente, en esos días no sabía ninguna de las cosas que hoy sé, podrías decir que mi ignorancia era mi felicidad (o carencia de la misma).

Creo haber mencionado anteriormente que la sentí la vida estaba en contra mía (si, sé que soy muy dramático, soy un latino, ¿qué esperabas?), en realidad se sentía así.

Fui acosado por mis vecinos y compañeros de clase y tan sólo solía decir: esta es la vida; y continúe con ella.

Sentí que no pertenecía a donde estaba, era diferente, no sabía exactamente como era diferente.

Al mismo tiempo tenía una lucha interna, no sabía por qué me atraían los chicos cuando la sociedad y todo el mundo esperaban que me gustasen las chicas.

Pero esta no era la razón por la que me sentía diferente. Tan sólo sabía que tenía que haber otra razón.

Mi relación con mi madre no era la mejor, es más éramos (y aún somos) muy similares; al mismo tiempo mi relación con mi hermano no era buena tampoco.

Mis otros familiares, Bueno ¿qué puedo decir?  No teníamos nada en común (y aún ahora no tenemos nada en común), mis vecinos gustaban jugar deportes (yo era un cerebrito), mis compañeros de escuela eran un producto directo de ir a la escuela, nada más.

Ambas mi infancia y mi adolescencia fueron muy solitarias, estaba en una búsqueda de querer descubrirme a mí mismo, el mundo y al universo.

Como menciono en mi libro Growing Confident, a mi madre le dijeron que era gay, alguien que yo tenía respeto y terminó traicionándome.


La vida pareció derrumbarse en cuestión de días, fui de sentirme casi vacío a sentirme totalmente vacío.

Mi alma y corazón arrancados de mí, me sentí mucho peor de lo que me sentí en los años anteriores a este momento.

Como mencioné ayer, el 27 de marzo del 2000 me sobredosé, sentí que ya no había sentido.

Cinco horas después fui despertado por mi madre (que no tenía idea alguna de lo que acababa de hacer), esta fue mi señal… Ese 27 de marzo a las 7PM supe cuál era mi propósito en esta vida… Ésta fue mi hora más oscura y mi despertada…

Después de todo este melodrama quizá te estés preguntando, ¿qué es lo que tiene que ver con lo que mantiene el fuego en mi vientre ardiendo?

Bueno, déjame decirte, todo…

Hoy en día vivo para inspirar y motivar a la gente que como yo (mejor dicho, como el un día fui) sienten que no tienen nada que ofrecer, nada que brindar y que la vida está en contra de ellos.

Respirando vida y compartiendo amor es lo que mantiene el fuego en mi vientre ardiendo.

Saber que puedo hacer una diferencia en la vida de alguien me mantiene yendo sin importar, porque nací en un lugar donde no tenía nada, me sentí fuera de lugar y confundido, me sentí rechazado, estuve deprimido (sin saberlo) y lo superé, salí (literalmente) victorioso; sé que es lo que siente, lo viví primera mano.

Aunque, en ese momento de mi “Jornada de Héroe” cuando visite el abismo fui bendecido con amor y vida, no para quedármelo, pero para compartirlo y asegurarme que cada persona que conozco y encuentro en mi camino también se benefician de ello y que aprendan que no importa lo que suceda hoy, siempre y cuando te permitas imaginar un mañana mejor, y sucederá.

Nada me hace más feliz que el saber que la gente está siguiendo su propósito, su misión, su porqué porque todos tenemos una razón de ser; que hay algo más grande y mejor que nosotros allá afuera que necesita lo que nosotros tenemos que ofrecer.

Cuando no sabía que yo valía algo, cuando sentí que no tenía nada que dar u ofrecer, me sentí vacío porque no había descubierto que yo importaba, que cualquier cosa que yo quisiese hacer era posible, hoy sé diferente.

Hoy en día, ayudo a los demás a lograr éxito y ser más confidentes en sus habilidades y su futuro.

Soy un Despertador de la Mente y el Alma (¿qué esto te preguntarás?), esto básicamente quiere decir que ayudo a la gente a despertar su potencial máximo y durante el proceso realinear sus mentes y almas.

¿Y qué pasa con el cuerpo (¡en caso de que te lo preguntes!)? ¿Recuerdas el dicho: mente sobre la materia? Eso es lo que el cuerpo es (materia), cuando tu mente y alma están realineadas y en el lugar correcto todo lo demás cae en el lugar adecuado.

Esto es lo que hace el fuego en mi vientre arder, saber que puedo ayudar a los demas que están en la misma situación en la que un día yo estuve; no fue fácil, no fue atractivo, no estaba donde quería estar (aunque, se sentía como si iba estar allá para siempre); luego fui guiado a mi propósito.

Aprendí que yo importaba, que tenía algo que brindar, que tenía un don, yo era el don.

¿Adivina qué? Esto es lo que hago con mis clientes.

Les ayudo a descubrir que ellos importan, que tienen algo que brindar, que ellos son un don.

Esto es lo que en realidad hace el fuego en mi arder.

Compartir la vida y el amor y al mismo tiempo hacer una diferencia en la vida de los demás.

Por favor comparte y deja un comentario.

Con todo mi amor.

Desde mi corazón al tuyo,




Flicking The Switch

Flicking The Switch

Are Your Daily Habits Helping You Towards Your Goals?




As jetlagged as I am (and I mean it is bad – hardly slept since I got back to the UK), after the incredible almost two weeks I had in the USA, I feel something changed in me.

Although, I am in personal development (as a Coach, Trainer and Author), I do my best to keep on top of my game, I am not going to deny it; I, too fall prisoner to procrastination and the lack of action.

I am getting better, though!

There is an incredible book entitled The Slight Edge (amazing book!), here the author Jeff Olson talks about those daily habits, routines or actions we take and how they shape our future, they either work with us or against us.

We choose…


This is exactly what I am experiencing right now, such momentum, clarity and alignment in my head and life, for that matter.

Because I have been working on myself for almost more than half my life, whenever I hear a message, quote or read a text, I am now able to get it almost instantly (sometimes I totally miss it!).

That repetition has finally sunk in and a switch has been flicked.

In terms of Modern Energism (I will explore this incredible subject in the last few blog posts), I am so high in the Energy Scale (aka SUE Scale – Subjective Unit of Experience), that pretty much everything seems effortless.

Why? Because I am operating from a place where the energy is flowing rapidly, I can think clearer, and love and logic work hand in hand.

My energy body, energy mind and my heart of energy (more of this later, I promise) are all working in the same direction, towards the same goals, and I am working towards my dreams knowing that I have created this.

Writing this has reminded me of an incredible public speaker named Jim Rohn, he used to say – Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better – and, – work harder on yourself than you work on your job -!

It hasn’t always been easy, though, it does get easier the more you apply yourself and work consistently towards what you want.

Are you creating momentum in your life?

Are your daily habits taking you closer or further away from your dreams?

Be honest, and if you aren’t where you wanted to be, it isn’t too late to start working towards what you want.

I hope you have enjoyed this read.

Please, like, share, comment and suggest.

With all my love.

From my heart to yours,



Desarrollo Personal En Nuestras Vidas

Desarrollo Personal En Nuestras Vidas

El Mannana Empieza A Ser Construido Hoy


Hola a todos. Espero que esten bien y trabajando hacia sus suennos.

Como mencione anteriormente (y esto incluye mis faltas ortograficas) en este viaje a Estados Unidos me he reencontrado con mis raices latinas (Que nunca he abandonado).

Desde la lengua hasta la cultura (comida y bebidas tambien jiji), y esto movio una nostalgia en mi mente y corazon.

Dejenme explicar, esta nostalgia no es una annoranza sino pena. Vi como muchos latinos que han venido a los Estados Unidos a vivir una mejor vida y realizar sus suennos terminan trabajando en trabajos similares a los que hubiesen hecho en sus paises natales.

Por que?

No es esta la nacion donde los suennos se hacen realidad?

Pues si que lo es. Y esta es la realidad.

La unica diferencia es que aunque muchas personas al migrar, solo cambian paises pero no su forma de pensar.

Voy a ser honesto, llevo muchos annos fuera de America Latina y se poco de como son las cosas en los diferentes paises y en las vidas de las personas en estos paises.

Lo que, por parte se es que cuando uno trabaja en su mente, la forma en que uno piensa y ve la vida, habla por si misma, los resultados lo dicen todo.

Ya recordaran que vivo en Inglaterra, y tambien hay latinos alla, y su forma de ver el mundo es negativa (en mi opinion personal!), y esto es palpable en lo que hacen, en su trabajo y en su vida en general.

Desde muy temprano me gusto la lectura y escribir (en esos dias mi gramatica era mejor jiji), y fue en libros donde encontre respuestas a muchas preguntas que tenia sobre la vida y el mundo, pero tenia mucha pena de preguntarle a alguien.

Fue a traves de los libros que aprendi sobre auto-ayuda y crecimiento personal, evolucion y fe en mi y mis capacidades.

Ahora postulo esta pregunta, estas haciendo algo para llevarte a tus metas?

Estas atendiendo algun seminario, leyendo algun buen libro de auto-ayuda, viendo un video para liberarte de tus pensamientos negativos o simplemente rodeandote de personas positivas (o mas positivas)?

En Europa he conocido a muchas personas de America Latina y de Espanna que llevan puestos una camisa diciendo victima!


Victimas del sistema, victimas de la sociedad, victimas de sus jefes, victimas de sus padres, y la lista es casi infinita.

Yo? Por otra parte nunca he visto ni he sido “victima” de tales cosas?

Cual es la diferencia?

En mi opinion, la diferencia ha sido la cantidad de estudios que he hecho, he invertido en mi y mi vida, me he rodeado de las personas mas positivas e inspiradoras que he podido encontrar; y como resultado mi vida ha sido diferente.

Todos los dias, leo paginas de un libro (o escribo paginas de uno jiji), escucho audios, veo videos y me rodeo de gente que agrega valor a mi vida y contribuyen hacia mis metas.

Algo que he aprendido en los ultimos 14 annos en Inglaterra ha sido que lo que tengo hoy es el resultado de lo que hice ayer, y lo que tendre manna sera el resultado de lo que hago hoy.

Actualmente estoy en Las Vegas, Nevada en Estados Unidos, muy lejos de mi casa; estoy en una conferencia de uno de mis negocios y aunque esto afecte mi rutina, lo veo como una inversion.

Aun aqui, estoy hacienda cosas que me estan llevando cada dia mas cerca de mis metas.

Cuando era pequenno recuerdo ver con annoranza ciudades y monumentos que pense era solo para personas ricas, como latino pobre pense que estaba condenado a vivir mi vida en un radio de 20 o 30 kilometros. Eso era todo lo que conocia.

Mas, nunca deje de sonnar.

Mis suennos eran y aun son mi prioridad.

Eleji hacer lo que los demas no quieren hacer y eso es sacrificar algo hoy, para tener un mejor mannana.

Ahora, te pregunto esto: Que estas haciendo que te mueve a tu futuro?

Estas leyendo? Estas aprendiendo? Estas trabajando para ser una mejor persona?

O, estas quejandote y haciendo absolutamente nada para mejorar tu situacion presente?

Tu sabes!

Con esto te dejo, y hasta la proxima.

Por favor, lee, comenta y comparte con la gente que conoces.

Con todo mi amor.

Desde mi corazon al tuyo,



Positive Messages And Re-programming

Positive Messages And Re-programming

Feeding Your Mind With Positives

Greetings from fabulous Las Vegas, Nevada!


What do you say to yourself when no one is watching?

Be honest.

Well, I will get the ball rolling. When no one is watching I am the meanest person ever to myself, what I say to myself I would probably end up in a fight if anyone said that to me.

So, what can we do when we find ourselves beating ourselves up or kicking ourselves in the butt.

Actually, this reminds me, in one of my NLP trainings, I used the kicking oneself analogy and then I said, how is that even possible? It’s not like we have a prosthetic leg constantly kicking ourselves, or have we? Well, I don’t.

What can we do?

I will give you a few suggestions…

First, I want to reassure you, it is 100% normal and acceptable to have that voice in our head saying things to us, criticising us and hindering our progress. I promise.

It is what we do when this happens what matters.

Some of the things we can do are:

  1. Seek professional help, if in doubt.
  2. Read a good book, self-help rocks!
  3. Listen to audios.
  4. Practice affirmations.
  5. Go for a long walk, never fails.
  6. Have a chat with that “annoying” voice and ask: what do you want?
  7. Read positive daily thoughts.
  8. Surround yourself with positive people.
  9. Be kind to yourself.

You see, there many options to silence those thoughts, I, at times play pretty loud music and lose myself in the lyrics and the rhythm of the music.

What these positive messages coming from all of these different options are doing is helping us re-programme our mind, how we see ourselves and the world around us.


Remember, what makes a real difference in our lives in the daily things we do to get ourselves to a better place. Rome wasn’t built in a day!

So, here you have it, positive talk, or self-talk can help you re-programme your mindset if you learn to act on it as soon as you notice it.

If you’d like to read some positive messages on a daily basis, check 365 Messages of Hope by moi meme.


Do something each day to help you create a more helpful inner chatter.

Till next time.

With all my love.

From my heart to yours,



Exercise And General Well-Being

Exercise And General Well-Being

Exercising The Body And The Mind


Exercise… my nemesis.

I do not enjoy exercising, I think I have mentioned it before (if not, here you have it!), though, I totally get the benefits.


I will be talking from my experience BTW, so that all you are reading is my personal bias.

Even though I dislike exercising, I cannot deny the wonderful positive effects it has on me.

As a direct result:

  1. I like my body,
  2. I feel energised,
  3. I am conscious of what I eat,
  4. I am investing in my future health and fitness,
  5. I am oxygenating my body and brain,
  6. I am releasing toxins through my sweat.

I could go on and write a rather large list.

However, I have found that the best results I have achieved in my mindset, and how I see fitness and nutrition altogether.

We live in a society where we are so focused on results that the “instant gratification” drives each and every one of our decisions and what we do.

Exercising now, I see as an investment, one that I will get to “cash-in” the future when I will need to be fit and able, in order to get by as an older man.

I have also noticed that exercising makes you happier, for two reasons: 1) you are enjoying the results (I swear if I didn’t exercise, I would be morbidly obese!), and 2) you feel energised after a workout.

Many males are so on (literally) after a workout (and I dare say some females feel so too!), so it increases your libido – isn’t this amazing, we can save in Viagra (for the mature gents BTW).

You learn to respect your body (or trash it less, whichever way you want to see it), and become more conscientious of your actions towards your body.

We aware that our body is a vehicle that needs servicing, exercising is our MOT and food is our fuel.

This constant looking after the vehicle and fuelling is what enables it to go the distance and the extra mile when we need it to.

Last, but not least, the more we exercise our body the stronger our mind gets, there is a direct connection between the two, the mind controls the body (going to the gym and eating healthier) and vice versa, the results feed the mind to want more of it.

Win-win I say.

So, should we work out?

Till next time.

Much love.

From my heart to yours,



Why Do Poets Write Poetry?

Why Do Poets Write Poetry?

What poetry is your heart telling?


From a very early age I have loved poetry and literature, though, I have to admit I am mostly inclined to say that poetry is my favourite.

As a good Latin boy (or man, the option is yours J), passion is a great part of my life, I am passionate about everything, it is a part of who I am, my identity.

I find that poetry touches me, and moves many emotions deep in me.

When I was growing up (I still am, at least hope to grow a little more), I had fewer friends than the average child/teenager, we just had different ideas and very little in common.

So, I found myself reading whatever I could get hold of, it served me in many ways, and to this date I still love reading, whether it is an article, a chapter of a good book, a short story, an essay or a poetry (oh poetry… what would this man’s life be without you, you sweet muse, my delightful muse).


I have to be totally honest, I was very fortunate I had one of the best literature professors anyone could ever wish for at college, Mrs Matute was the best, because of her I fell in love with Latin America’s short literature and prose history.

At the age of 15, we were encouraged (though, some of my peers felt we were forced to!), to compile a list of 100 poems from our favourite poet, from the 18th century (oh, how wonderful I thought – I was a library mouse, still am!). Mrs Matute lived for her literature and she was able to inspire and pass that beautiful knowledge onto others (at least the willing ones, like myself).

Well, what can I say?

I felt compelled to write poetry.

I started writing poetry in my diary, I felt it was the easiest way to put on paper what I was feeling at the time. Though, to my amazement, I was not the only one, some of my closest friends at school too (the handful of friends I had J – it is not about the quantity you know!).

Now, I am able to see poetry and literature through a completely different filter, through the eyes of a coach and therapist.

So, when I look at a poem, I don’t just see some words or piece of art, I see a part of someone who put their feelings and emotions, opinions and ideas, likes and dislikes, for eternity, for everyone to see, and see life through their eyes, through their filters.

I, personally, have found poetry and literature rather therapeutic and healing.

When, I put my thoughts and ideas on paper, I feel lighter, there is a mental release, and whatever has troubled me seems to vanish either for good or at least momentarily.

Then, when I visit those poems or writing, or pieces of me on writing I am able to assess and determine what was going through my mind at the time.

Based on what I have said so far, I would say that poets write poetry, not only because they love life and poetry, but because they feel the urge and need to release a demon deep inside of them, that speaks to them in verse rather than in words, just like an artist paints on a canvas what they see in their mind’s eye.

A poet puts on paper what is in his heart, what is buried deep in his soul and by bringing it to the surface, i.e. the paper of the computer screen, he releases it and able to rest.

Writing poetry is not difficult, on the contrary it is so simple, there are no rules, the only rule is that you empty what is inside of you, your love, your inspiration, a part of you; other than anything goes, anything, you set the bar and put the limits.

In my few years on this planet I have written hundreds of poems, sadly some of them lasted momentarily, the emotions attached to them were far too great to keep; however, those that reminded me of the fun, joy and love I have experienced so far, are still with us.

If you are curious and would like to read my poetry you can find some of my poems on my ebook Soul Poems, From My Heart To Yours available on Amazon, and Growing Confident, 10 Simple Steps To A More Confident You available on DragonRising.com, check them out, I have written them with all my love.

So, what I am really getting at here is, whenever you feel excited, sad, in love, inspired put it on paper, write a poem, write something about whatever is going in your head and bring it to live, materialise it and allow that process to be completed and healed.

An idea on paper, a feeling on paper is much better than something that is constantly lurking on our heads and keeping us trapped and depending on it.

I highly encourage you to give it and go, and if you feel brave, whether it is a book or poems, have them published, share them with the world.

I will explore this in more detail tomorrow, sharing your story and gift with the world (I speak of these two subjects in more detail on Growing Confident).

Do it, your future self with thank you and, you never know whose life you might positively impact as a direct result.

Till tomorrow.

With all my love.

From my heart to yours,



Why do people (and Bob Geldof?) “Not Like” or hate Mondays”?

Why do people (and Bob Geldof?) “Not Like” or hate Mondays”?



For as long as I can remember, I have recollections of people “cursing”, both metaphorically and literally speaking, Mondays, I never quite understood why and, truth be told I do not know or “get” why, as yet!

My experiences with Mondays have always been sooo different, compared to what other people have shared with me in past.


Those who know me (I hope you get to know me too!) cannot understand why I, on the other hand, looooove my Mondays.

I see Mondays as a new beginning, new opportunities have been granted to us and we are able to “regain” control over our affairs.

After a couple of days off, i.e. Saturday and Sunday, it can be a challenge and quite difficult to bring oneself back to that mindset of getting things done and getting our priorities right!

Though, when you look forward to starting a new chapter in your month or year, Mondays have the potential to become our best allies. When you look forward to a new week and by that I mean, Monday, you become excitable, hopeful and inspired to take action and, have a great week.

It is not uncommon to hear people doing a countdown to their weekend, almost as if they were running away from their week or themselves; sadly, it is a different story altogether, when it comes to a Monday.

I start to wonder, if people were more “open minded” about Mondays and what they have to offer, would they be welcoming more opportunities and a new approach to the week ahead?

Continuing on what we talked about yesterday, language and communication, when we vocalise we “hate” Mondays, we wish it still was the weekend, or beg for one more day; is it fair to say we are setting ourselves for failure?

Think about it? If you have to do something you “hate”, you are not going to enjoy, no matter what.

But, if you looooove what you are going to be doing, if you are welcoming it into your life and you are excited, the results well, they will speak for themselves.

I truly hope you have found this brief and short blog of some use to you.

Try it, in fact do it, next Monday, I invite you to be excited about and notice the difference it creates in your week and who knows maybe even your life.


Till next time (which is tomorrow BTW).

With all my love.

From my heart to yours,




PS, as always feel free to comment, share and give any feedback J


Is Communication More Important Than Language?

Is communication more important than language?


Today is the last day of a NLP Practitioner training I am delivering here in Southampton, England.

As a trainer of NLP and various other modalities, and as a Coach and Therapist I am particularly interested and fascinated by communication and language.

Before I fully go into this blog, I want to take the opportunity to say that effective communication is much more than speaking properly and using the best words to describe any given situation. English isn’t my first language, yet it hasn’t stopped me from communicating effectively nor has it been the reason why I might have miscommunicated in the past.

That having been said (deep sigh!), I can start this blog.

In NLP we have some “mantras” or sayings which we call The Presuppositions of NLP. What this means is we take them and treat them as law to enable us to look at things and situations from a different light.


There are two of these presuppositions that come to mind:

  1. The meaning of communication is the response you get, and
  2. You cannot not communicate.

You see, they might seem quite cryptic and almost have no meaning; though, when you break them down their meaning or core message is so powerful.

If we take the first one, the meaning of communication is the response we get.

I invite you to revisit a past event where you had a conversation with someone (anyone would do nicely BTW), and that conversation went wrong, totally pear-shaped!

What went wrong?

What did you do?

What did you say?

How did you say it?

I am not accusing you of anything, I promise! (Or am I?)

By asking this questions what I am aiming for you to do is to start noticing how there are many elements involved at the time we communicate with other people.

Things like, the time of the day, the time of the month, our current state, our financial situation, whether we are hungry or in a hurry; these factors can influence the how we come across to others, this then is transferred to our physiology (some people call this body language!), the tempo and speed of our voice, and at times they can have a direct or indirect impact in the choice of the words we use at the time.

If we take, for example, “body language” (I am sorry, I am laughing at this moment – I built this image of headless bodies running around talking and doing their day-to-day tasks), we can then see how the use of our height, hands, feet can play a huge role when we speak to others, we may come across as friendly or unfriendly, as an ally or as a threat.


It has been said in the past that 55% of our communication is that non-verbal “stuff” we say or don’t say when we have a conversation with colleagues, friends or children. The rest, 38% is how we say things and only 7% relates to the words we use (choose to use really!).

These 3 things should be aligned and in congruency when we speak, so the words we say should match how we speak them and what our bodies are saying too.

To illustrate this, just imagine having a conversation with a child asking him or her, have you washed your hands? And, they respond by say yes, nodding negatively and their hands are covered in dirt? Would you be satisfied with that answer, when their bodies don’t match what has been said?

Looking at the other presupposition, you cannot not communicate (a double negative, oh dear! – BTW I don’t think we have these in Spanish! – phew), what this is really telling us is We Are Always Communicating, whether we want it or not – even in our sleep.

So, now let’s look at the linguistic side of communication.

We are very familiar with phrases like “negative self-talk”, “positive language”, “clean language”, “sexy language” – aka, dirty language (sorry, I couldn’t resist) and, we also have what we call “ecological language” in NLP (this means how the language used can have an impact in our environment, both internal and external).

Language is much more than words and sentences succinctly and beautifully put together, it is much more than the artful skills we have been told people like Shakespeare, Wordsworth and many others possessed in the olden days.

To me, and let me clarify it, this is my bias; language is how we make people feel, how we make ourselves feel.

If we use negative language and negative words, there is a change in our psychology and mindset, even in our physiology, it disempowers us and, can take us down a path we might wish we never visited.

On the other hand, when the language we choose to use is positive (did I mention that we have the choice?), the results, well, are obvious, these words are healing, empowering, energetic, heartfelt and they will have the potential to transform lives, create results and move us towards our final destination, happiness (The Promised Land!), or whatever goal/outcome we are working towards.

If, to what we just touched on, we add action, planning and dedication; we will have a winning formula to accomplish whatever we set our minds to. The LoA (aka Law of Attraction) would be many times more effective because the use of our language fuels and inspires our biggest asset, our brain.

Positive language, positive self-talk can most certainly drive our psychology to get the results we want in our lives.

So, I wonder, if I may ask, how is your language impacting your life and the lives of those you meet? How is your language affecting your outcomes and goals, and whether to take action or not?

I am curious to know, please feel to share with me if you can. You can comment below or send me a pm or email (oh, and don’t forget to share J).

Till next time, BTW, feel free to suggest what topics you would like me to cover, if I am able and it is a subject I am knowledgeable about, I would be delighted to give my (biased) opinion.

With all my love.

From my heart to yours,




PS, email me on jorge@lifecoachsouthampton.co.uk if you wish to share how your language is affecting your outcomes or how it has affected your outcomes.







Now is the Time

Now is the time


 You have come so far,

Yet, the journey has just begun

Wake up! Wake up!

Don’t turn your back on the now,

Let go of the past,

What purpose does it serve you?

Where can you find that what you seek?

Isn’t the present the future you once dreamt?

Where has it gone?

What have you done?ElectronicAwakening-Image2

Wake up! Wake up!

Aren’t dreams anything but fantasies?

Is reality but a bad dream?

What do to? Where to go?

The past has left you behind,

Betrayed you with a false good-bye

Too late, too soon, it was gone.

Wake up! Wake up!

The clock is ticking,

Surrender your stubbornness,

Accept, you are all that matters

Yesterday has left you,

Tomorrow awaits you,

Trust and belief, the time is right

Your dues have been paid

Freedom has found you

Let it in, let it stay

Conquer your fears,

Let go of your yesterdays

Welcome your tomorrows

Wake up! Wake up!

The time is right, the time is now,

Now is the time,

Now is your time.



Control. Who is in charge of your life?


Who is in charge of your life?


It has been a while since I have put fingers to keyboard. Since the last blog on the 1st of January I have embarked on a journey of self-discovery, learning and experiencing so I can share with you my findings.

Many of us have heard the quote by Ford: Whether you think you can or not, you are right!

In the last few months I have come to the understanding that it isn’t that straightforward, it may appear simple, the reality is less so.

When we learn there are four stages in the learning process:

  • Unconscious incompetence – we don’t know what we don’t know,
  • Conscious incompetence – we know what we don’t know,
  • Conscious competence – we know what we know, and
  • Unconscious competence – we don’t know what we know or mastery!

So I have concluded that until we step into the conscious incompetence sphere in life, we won’t be able to determine what we can or not do. All else is just but an assumption.

Fear on the other hand, is what has been driving many people for centuries, generations of families, groups and societies. This fear, is much more than the acronym it has been given many times – False expectations appearing real! –

What is driving this fear? Or the force behind it? In my experience and understanding it is stress, due to the environment, our behaviours and beliefs in general.

So, we go in life (and I include myself here!), creating this pseudo reality, a stress-packed and stress-full life and reality, where we don’t trust our feelings, emotions and inner guidance; dreams don’t matter any longer and the spark we were once born with slowly fades away, ultimately we miss out on what could have been our biggest and best achievements and successes in life.

Stress, in my opinion stands for (why not give it an acronym too!)

  • Silly,
  • Tormenting,
  • Ridiculous,
  • Endless,
  • Self-
  • Sabotaging.

Do I need to expand on what these mean?

What to do then?

Simple, make a decision, just one decision, THE single most important decision you will have ever made in your life, right now. Step off your comfort zone and explore life on the “conscious incompetence level”, explore something new, something that scares you and allows you to grow as an individual.

In my case, that “something” scary was to be true to myself, and tap into my mission and purpose in this life-time, which is to help people find their mission and purpose in life. It wasn’t easy, I had to explore the unknown (to me), grow and evolve so I could find my strengths and opportunities around me.

Before then, I only focussed on the “stick”, my weaknesses and threats… In a nutshell I was stressed and I did not know it; fear took over and imprisoned me in a jail of my own creation which was strengthened by own liming beliefs and demons.

Now, on this side of the comfort zone, what can I say? I am here, typing this blog for you to read and ignite that flame, passion and life, in you.

Go and take control of your life, grab the pen and start writing your own story.


What will you do differently from now?

Share with me.


JV Mind and Soul Awakener

Clear Direction

Clear Direction

Although we have access to the most incredible technology nowadays, and have tools we never even dreamed of; many people in our era find themselves stuck in a rut, frozen and unable to progress in life.

If you are in such situation you are most likely asking yourself WHY?

I put it simply, would you embark on a journey (it could be a holiday destination, recommended place, etc.), into the unknown without a map?


Your answer like the answer of many is an emphatic NO! I wouldn’t go to an unknown place without a map, that’s for sure!

So, to head in the “right” direction and follow our purpose in life we have to have a clear idea of what it is we want and what it would take to achieve it. In other words, we have to have goals in place.

Goal setting is the map and compass we need to create a step-by-step, easy to follow plan to help achieve our aims and desires in life.

A goal has to be SMART, it isn’t called SMART because it is an intelligent approach to completing tasks (which it 100% is!); it is an acronym for S, Specific. M, Measurable. A, Achievable. R, Realistic. And T, Time-framed.

Here is an example of Specific in goal setting, I want to earn £2550 a month. The amount of money mentioned is very exact.

The measurable element in goal setting basically means, how do you know you will have achieved it? Following the given example, I will know I have achieved my goal when I see the exact amount of money or more in my bank account. Achievable, can it be done? Has anyone ever earned £2550/per month, or do you know anyone who does? Realistic, are your skills up to date and worth that much money or do you need to improve or learn new ones? And Time-framed, when do you want to achieve this goal by?

Having SMART goals in place is just the beginning. Once we have our map (goals set), we work backwards; we start reading the map and see where we are and what needs to be done to move forward, and even to know when are lost or have had a setback in our journey.

A Gantt chart does just that, we chunk our goals up or down and we see a real and true break down of our goal and see our progress, at this moment we are able to determine whether our goal is too ambitious or unrealistic.

Example of a Gantt chart

gantt chart

Goals, just like affirmations are best set in the present and positively. It is good practice to visualise ourselves already achieving our goals, seeing it, hearing it, feeling it, smelling it and tasting it as if it were real. It is also important that it is written down, a written goal is twice as powerful as a non-written goal.

You know yourself better than anyone. Ask yourself the following questions: What do I want to do with my life? Is there anything stopping from achieving my dreams? If time wasn’t an issue what would I be doing right now? Or… and this is my favourite question: What did you dream of becoming when you were a child?

By questioning yourself, in a positive and constructive manner; you are making your brain think what is and what isn’t important to you.

We can look at it this way, if you want to become a teacher; realising that that is what you want, is like deciding to go on holidays. You then look at your skills, experience, etc., this would be like deciding where you want to go, budget, dates and so on. And finally once you get there having a clear idea of where to go, how to get there, etc., this is nothing more than goal setting, having a clear, accurate and effective way of carrying your tasks out and achieving your desires, wants and dreams in life.

Once you crack how to set goals, you can achieve anything in life. Goal setting or clear direction as I like to refer to it, can be extrapolated and applied to every area of our lives, moving houses, planning a family, buying a new car, starting your own business. You learn to take control of your life and go through the peaks and troughs like present us effortlessly, inspiring people to follow your example, do the same.

By having a clear idea of the general direction you are heading in life, you learn to see options and possibilities, and map your life out for success.

Much love,


Note. If this blog has helped in any way, do not hesitate to contact me and share with me your successes. I look forwards to hearing from you.

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Know your limits!!!

Know your limits!!!


Recently I was asked by a friend to carry out some tasks for him, to which I agreed without any hesitation, I felt honoured and excited at the same time, for I was about to embark into something new and out of my comfort zone and it made me feel great about it.

Like most people with a growth mindset (people who embrace change and see everything as an opportunity), I looked at this challenge in a very positive way. knowing consciously it was not me at all.

A few weeks past and I started questioning myself. Am I scared I may fail? Is this too much for me? Am I approaching this the right way?

I am not going to lie I was petrified, I did some tapping on myself, played in the “matrix“, did some timeline work, coached myself, did some energy work and healing on myself, trying to get to the root of this doubtful voice I was listening to (aka subconscious mind).

And then it hit me… I came to understand that I agreed to do something which was not me at all, I simply agreed because it excited me and I felt I had to do it, without taking into account whether my heart was in it. I took on a task that was way out of my abilities and skills.

The reason I am sharing this with you is because at times we do or agree to things because we feel obliged or we are put under the spot. When we truly know what our call or purpose in life is, we are able to recognise and in a very realistic manner admit what is out of our scope.

I would like you to understand that it is OK to at times admit we are taking too much on, or our eyes are bigger than our belly; that we don’t have the skills required or we aren’t the ideal person for the post. It takes a lot of courage to say, this is not me. Trust me in the long run you will thank yourself!

Ultimately what happens is we feed our fears and limiting beliefs by committing to something bigger than our capabilities, then fail and fall into a greater hole and hear the nagging voices saying: I knew it! Or surprise, surprise, another failure! You will never amount to anything! You have done it again, etc.

By admitting we don’t have the skills or don’t meet the criteria for a role or task, we are saying to ourselves, I know what I can and cannot do, this is not me and I will not fall into the trap of starting something I will not finish, and hurt myself along the way.

How many times we hear people complaining or showing signs of frustration because they are unhappy, this unhappiness in my experience stems from either lack of skill or practice, or simply because these people are undertaking tasks or jobs that are way out of their capabilities.

When we gain an understanding of our likes and dislikes in life we are capable of saying out loud, this is me or this is not me; however, if we are clueless as to what our strengths and weaknesses are we will go in life punishing and judging ourselves, creating beliefs that we aren’t good enough, that we will never amount to anything.

So, I encourage you, take a good look at your life, your job and even your relationships. Are you stuck in a rut? Do you ever wish you were elsewhere? Or on the contrary. Do you feel a sense of belonging? Do you feel there is nothing else in the world you would rather do?

Be honest, see your life and current situation through the eyes of an outsider, what would they see and say about you and what they see?

Much love,


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Please let me know what you discover about your current situation.